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Old 11-19-13, 10:41 PM   #1
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Am horrible at dating and reading subtle clues off women. Especially women am attracted too, in fact I've never ask one out face to face. Hence why I ask does she like me?

I've known this woman named Jen for about a year now. We met in a school club in our college and since then we've had fairly strong friendship with each other due to similar interests and taste in things. However recently I notice a change in her behaviour, she's ended late or missing her bus due to talking with me ( because am such a gentleman I end up late and missing buses too). Also her goodbyes have change to "when will I see you next".

Couple days ago I finally got around to adding her to my friend's list on Facebook (My friends tend to use gtalk over facebook). While today I found in my inbox message asking me if coming to the club this week. Now there is no reason for me to actually show up (discounting the crush I got on Jen) and no reason for her to ask for me to show up.

As I said before I don't know how to take this. So I would love some input on?
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Old 11-20-13, 11:19 AM   #2
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It does sound like she has interest in you and some of the things she's doing would point out to it like missing the bus on purpose rather than saying a quick goodbye and catching up later.

Maybe you could invite her for some coffee or lunch? See where things go. If she gets more than just friendly, then it might just be that she has feelings for you as well but is just afraid of showing them.
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Old 11-20-13, 03:48 PM   #3
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Sounds like there is some mutual attraction there. You could always tell her that you like her. If she is waiting for you to make the first move, that's a good way to get your feelings out there. I dunno though. I'm the same as you with reading females. Just be honest.

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Old 11-20-13, 08:54 PM   #4
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Women are at times difficult to read, I think most men agree with that. In this case, this girl I would be 99% sure is very much into you. I think you should ask her on a date of some kind. Or just casually ask her out for a drink just the two of you and see where it goes.
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Old 11-25-13, 04:29 PM   #5
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Well I did ask her out and she said yes. In fact this was after she told mutual friend that she had crush on me ( when the friend saw me next she had the get your ass in gear speech ready for me)

So for couple days till our first date we traded messages back and forth. Stuff about how long we each been waiting for the other to make the move, how we felt, etc.

Well finally the day comes and take her out for dinner after she finished a test. When the end of date came and I asked her how for second one, she respond with I don't know and reminded me of message she shared with.

Basically lesbian friend of hers, who is now getting married decided to tell all the women she had crushes on over the years and Jen was near the top of it. She now doubts her own sexuality and now where not talking with each other (trying to the whole space thing)

But since then I've just been pissed off about the whole thing. I don't know what I should do. I barely think I can talk to her any more or even be around her anymore. It's not due to me being a homophobe, but just how she went about it.

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Old 11-26-13, 03:34 PM   #6
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Just to be clear, Jen is the one having trouble about her sexuality? And if I may ask her age?
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Old 11-26-13, 05:36 PM   #7
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@Crystal Orb

Yes Jen is the one having the trouble and she's 22. After posting this she talked to me and said she didn't think it could work out with between us. Respond with I don't know if I can trust her anymore.
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Wow I'm so sorry things turned out like that! Does she think she's a lesbian or bisexual? I feel bad for men.
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Wow I'm so sorry things turned out like that! Does she think she's a lesbian or bisexual? I feel bad for men.
She doesn't know. In her words she thought that a date with me would be able to get her to figure out if she is straight, bi, or lesbian.

Note, she started doubting her sexual oriental couple days after I asked her out.
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It's not uncommon sometimes for people to be confused about their sexuality, especially if they have not had a chance to experiment and/or if their sexuality has been constantly judged/criticized whether they are gay, bisexual, or lesbian.

Sexuality is not as simply as some people say that if your into the opposite sex, your straight, if your into the same sex your gay/lesbian or if your into both your bi. Sexuality fluctuates in many ways and text book answers often leave more question than answer.

For example, if I was asked right now what my orientation is, I would have to say asexual because I cannot look at people and say "I want to do them". The idea of actually engaging in sex freaks me out and in textbook explanations that would fit as a standard sign of asexualism but on the other hand I can also get aroused when reading/viewing erotic material which is not qualified to be an asexual trait.

It seems that this girl is not quite in tuned with her sexuality which could explain why she's having doubts even after admitting to having feelings for you. The fact that only after her friend told her that she had been crushing on her in the past got her to react in this way also caught my attention. If I may did you get to talk about that?
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