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Old 07-28-13, 11:07 AM   #1
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I'm 20 years old, male, studying at University. During my adolescence girls (and several guys) used to make a sport out of commenting on how ugly I was/am. People don't tend to do so anymore, but it was so crushing at the time (and I could give lots of examples).
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Old 07-28-13, 11:25 AM   #2
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I'm 20 years old, male, studying at University. During my adolescence girls (and several guys) used to make a sport out of commenting on how ugly I was/am. People don't tend to do so anymore, but it was so crushing at the time (and I could give lots of examples).
Due to my computer messing up, my message sent halfway through completion. I had planned to add:


I don't know whether I have the right to expect that some girls may find me attractive, or whether I should accept that hardly anyone will.

I wanted to attach some pictures, but my internet here is atrocious. And for some bizzare reason I can't delete my own thread. So sorry guys but I've just had to leave my thread starter uncompleted.
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Old 07-29-13, 10:36 PM   #4
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Hey there, of course you have a right to expect and want girls to like you! Highschool and primary school, and hell, even college...can be vicious places full of immature people. Everyone is attractive in their own way...even if you don't meet the stereotypical expectation of 'beautiful', don't worry about this. How many people actually look like the people you see in magazines and on tv and in the movies? Not many.

I would try to forget about what those people said. Although I know it is hard... I was treated the same in my younger years, and did not get much attention from the opposite sex. But after I left school and uni and whatnot, the tables turned and I started to get a bit of attention. So of course the came will happen for you.

You will find someone who appreciates you, try not to be so hard on yourself
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Old 08-01-13, 04:31 PM   #5
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Hi 11thHeaven~ I don't think you have a right to expect every girl to like you (or to expect everyone to like you, for that matter). But I definitely think you should expect that some girls will like you. After all, there are so many people on this planet ~ the sheer odds are in your favor that you will be compatible with at least a few of those! Don't force it if it isn't there, and try not to get upset or angry if you get rejected - there's still somebody else out there who will think you're awesome.

As rememberthegirl pointed out above, everyone is attractive in their own way, but that may not necessarily follow "conventional" standards of attractiveness. Even if you don't think you look perfect, you just might be somebody's "type." Things that you think are flaws may be things that other people find charming about you.

And looks are only a fraction of the equation. Personality and interests will definitely play a large role in attracting people to you as well. In fact, in the long run, these are probably even more important than looks.
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