I'm sorry too

I would say that because you're being true to yourself and true to your feelings. Having her x around might be confusing her as to what she may want. While that's just my own personal opinion. He sounds like he doesn't really care about her or her feelings; that's sad. You shouldn't hurt anybody, especially when it's not a good time in their life. You should be supportive, caring, and compassionate.

I'm sorry that you're crying. I know distracting yourself is hard, but you need to continue to keep moving forward with your life dear. Lack of sleep, not eating well, and the thoughts, it's not healthy for you. You need to find some kind of distraction to keep yourself occupied. I know it's not easy, but find something, even if it's going for a walk. Sometimes it helps to just get out and see things around you, instead of letting things 'fester' with yourself. Distraction are a good way of doing that. We're all here for you so try to find some comfort in knowing that people care; sincerely.

I was actually talking with someone about the situation and found it was so much harder to say it out loud. I think I'm pretty emotional, but I don't really cry. I usually try to make a joke about it and laugh it off.

I wish I knew what she was thinking, if she even thought about going out with me, if she's thinking about it now, or how upset she really is. She keeps sending me messages to cheer me up and saying that I deserve the best of the best and not to settle for anyone. Part of me wants to believe she's saying not to settle so she can have time to get over her ex, and then the other, more reasonable part, says she doesn't like you like that and never will. I want to tell her that I don't think any other guy cares about you as much as I do. We know so much about each other that it's like we've been dating for years. That's why I think this hurts just as much as breaking up after a long relationship.

I think I've always had strong feelings for her, but since she was with someone, I had to get over it. Just knowing that we could be together right now, but she doesn't want that, gives me this new numbing pain that I've never had to deal with. I know it's not healthy, but yesterday, I didn't eat almost all day. I've never really had to deal with the loss of someone. The only funeral that I've been to was my great grandmother when I was little. I feel like this is the first loss that I've had to deal with in my whole life. I want to keep flirting with her, but is this just going to hurt me more? I can't tell if she's really thinking about the situation.

Well I wrote the birthday card and it's not like a romantic card or anything. Inside it, I wrote, 'if you ever need to talk to someone, I'll be happy to listen'. Maybe this will make her rethink things more. Please someone let me know if this is a bad idea and makes me look desperate. Based on the first card, the latest I could send this is Tuesday.

I think what you wrote in the card is great! That tells her you are a true friend to her.
I,however,think you should try to move on for your own good. Not saying you shouldn't be friends with her anymore,but that you shouldn't do things with the thought that she might 'rethink things more'. It is hard,trust me,I have been there. You have to try to tell yourself that it is her happiness that's most important to you,even if it doesn't include dating you. So do the usual things you'd do to make her happy,but don't go out of your way just because you feel they will make it happen! If giving her some space will help you,do it.
True love can be letting go too,I am learning...
I hope all goes well for you

You're right, I really have to move on, but the thought that she's still considering it makes me feel better. But I think I'm just going to tear up the card and throw it out. It's just something that's giving me temporary relief and false hope. I'll still wish her a happy birthday, but that card has the chance to do more harm than good. :(

Hey
I don't meen to sound like a downer but I'd like to say. Just because she is considering it doesn't meen you shouldn't try to move on. Please don't hang on to something that might never happen... If it does some time in the future then that's great, but in the meantime get out there and meet some new ppl ok, there are lots of nice girls out there (lots of nasty ones too )

I agree with mmch...

I agree with celery :)

I know you're all right. It's just hard to give up on something that I never thought would fail. Honestly, she's probably not even thinking about it, but trying to convince myself that she is makes it hurt less. I just hope someone walks into my life fast.