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Old 05-25-10, 01:12 AM   #1
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Default 21, never been kissed, never had a boyfriend..isn't that weird?

How do I get a guy? As far as I know I'm not ugly. I make zero effort for them though. I suspect that might be the reason but I'm not sure. That can't be true. All a girl needs to do is look pretty/sorta cute and guys come running right?

Guys give me tips of everything in detail you want in a girl. I want to design myself to cater to a man's ideal girl.

Why? Well it's not for the reason you're thinking. I'm not lonely. I just want to be normal and to be able to have the experience is all. Frankly mushiness disgusts me. But I do want the experience and to be normal. It depresses me that I'm not normal. I don't want to end up a 30 year old virgin. (honestly the idea of that makes me sick especially since its not by choice and I am not religious)

Advice and tips on how to get guys interested in me please. I just want to be normal. I don't care if the guy doesn't love me and it's just a physical thing. At least it makes me normal.

Just..tips on how to grab a guy for a while would do. Go into detail for everything. Hair, nails, eyes, etc, etc.

I just want the experience of a relationship at least once.
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Old 05-25-10, 01:36 AM   #2
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Honestly, it depends on what you want in a guy. You're just looking for a relationship - any relationship? You said no mushiness, and you don't much care about what the guy is like, so that's pretty open-ended.
I warn you now though, if you're just after any guy, you probably won't be very happy with the one you get, and you may wish you'd put a little more thought into it. So my advice first-off would be to make sure that's what you want.

Now to answer your question.
Guys are as diverse as girls are, and we're much less difficult to understand. The first step is to care. A guy isn't going to approach you if he thinks that you'd have no interest in him, then he'd just be wasting his time. Look like you care. Look at what some of the other girls wear when they go out if you're not sure, but make it something a little bit exciting. There's a border here between exciting and slutty, so if you're not sure it's probably better to be on the more conservative side.
Then show some interest. Talk with some of them. If you talk with a guy consistently then you're showing up on his mental radar. If he knows you're single, and he's also single and looking for a relationship, you get mentally flagged as, "Potential relationship." Then he pays a little more attention, and scopes you out a little more.

That's it, really. Show that you're interested and look like you care.
Anything more than that can vary by every guy. You mentioned hair/nails/eyes, well, my personal preferences are for longer hair, not curly, don't care about nails as long as they don't dig into my flesh when she holds my hand, and eyes that don't look like they have a gallon of paint smeared all over them. That's just me though, the next poster to come along could easily prefer the opposites on all of that.

Edit: Note that all of that is for "I want a guy now." If you want a lasting relationship, or want something more than just some kind of relationship immediately, then different advice may apply. Let me know if that's the case and I'll try to help out.

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Old 05-25-10, 02:15 AM   #3
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Go to a bar. Approach any male individual, preferably one who's not with a woman already. Flirt/give a SLIGHTEST hint that you're interested. And you are done. It's sad but I'm pretty confident it'll work if you're not physically unattractive.

e. Dressing slutty does help if you just want to get laid. But for a relationship...well you can still dress slutty, but think most would prefer normal look. Not too coy though. Preferences of hairstyle, make up, etc varies with every guy so it doesn't really matter. You'll increase your chances to pull if you look relatively normal and not just going towards one end of the spectrum (like pink mohawk with leather jacket or something).
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Old 05-25-10, 05:20 AM   #4
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well, if u need to get a guy u can go to a night club and get drunk - evthg goes naturally from there)
u can try but i am not sure u will feel that this is normal and that the fact u got a guy and had sex or just kissed and became normal - would make u feel good.
who said that normal is good?? think about it

if it makes u sick that u will be a 30 y.o. virgin - this will be used against u in relationships. guys like confident girls, confident and proud of who they are, not those that think smth is wong with them and try desperately to get rid of it.

yes, u need guys and u need love so its absolutely normal that u want to have a full life but be careful, not all means are good for that.
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Old 05-25-10, 05:40 AM   #5
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How do I get a guy? As far as I know I'm not ugly. I make zero effort for them though. I suspect that might be the reason but I'm not sure. That can't be true. All a girl needs to do is look pretty/sorta cute and guys come running right?

Guys give me tips of everything in detail you want in a girl. I want to design myself to cater to a man's ideal girl.

Why? Well it's not for the reason you're thinking. I'm not lonely. I just want to be normal and to be able to have the experience is all. Frankly mushiness disgusts me. But I do want the experience and to be normal. It depresses me that I'm not normal. I don't want to end up a 30 year old virgin. (honestly the idea of that makes me sick especially since its not by choice and I am not religious)

Advice and tips on how to get guys interested in me please. I just want to be normal. I don't care if the guy doesn't love me and it's just a physical thing. At least it makes me normal.

Just..tips on how to grab a guy for a while would do. Go into detail for everything. Hair, nails, eyes, etc, etc.

I just want the experience of a relationship at least once.
So where do you live? I'll come over and kiss you - lol, jk.

I think being open and honest is your best bet. In that sense my joke should illustrate the point that if you are open and honest you'll probably find a willing guy pretty quick.

I think focussing on the details concerning looks is probably not all that helpful. Guys have varied taste when it comes to that. I mean if you spend some time trying to look nice, it's not going to hurt I'm sure, but the details probably don't matter a whole lot. Guys generally don't notice the details. Lol - ask any girl in a relationship about that.
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Well every guy depends. One thing is for sure, finding someone just to fuck you, that's easy, just go out at night, you'll pick someone up.

But I honestly think that for first time in everything it would mean much more if he was either a boyfriend or a close friend.

First thing, DON'T be a snob, I find it to be the most unattractive thing in some girls, makes me honestly wanna punch them in the face. And don't be desperate, just last year I had this girl trying to fuck (I say fuck because it was exactly that, no love) all the time, first time we met I slept over at her house cos I had no other place, she started walking around without underwear, convinced me to sleep in her room mates bed and made me feel the closest to rape I had ever been. Another time she came to me in a party saying "I want to fuck you". Stuff like that, I don't find attractive, and always refused.


So if you keep out of those two things. You'll notice that are many guys talking to you in your group of friends and around your life, and that if you reply to them, they'll always reply back. Because that's what we do, we keep trying to find chances to get a girl to like you if we find her minimally cute and interesting. And you'll just see it happening eventually with one of those guys.




I know many people still virgins at our age. Well and in last case, if you live in Europe I won't mind
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Old 05-26-10, 10:53 AM   #7
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How do I get a guy? As far as I know I'm not ugly. I make zero effort for them though. I suspect that might be the reason but I'm not sure. That can't be true. All a girl needs to do is look pretty/sorta cute and guys come running right?

Guys give me tips of everything in detail you want in a girl. I want to design myself to cater to a man's ideal girl.

Why? Well it's not for the reason you're thinking. I'm not lonely. I just want to be normal and to be able to have the experience is all. Frankly mushiness disgusts me. But I do want the experience and to be normal. It depresses me that I'm not normal. I don't want to end up a 30 year old virgin. (honestly the idea of that makes me sick especially since its not by choice and I am not religious)

Advice and tips on how to get guys interested in me please. I just want to be normal. I don't care if the guy doesn't love me and it's just a physical thing. At least it makes me normal.

Just..tips on how to grab a guy for a while would do. Go into detail for everything. Hair, nails, eyes, etc, etc.

I just want the experience of a relationship at least once.

There is no set formula on how to get every guy. Sorry.

If you're just after a one-nighter, that's easy. Dress in form-fitting clothes, be careful with makeup (you want to look sexy but not too made up), and get yourself out there - join a dating site, go to bars, etc. Make yourself available - and your intentions clear - and you'll attract men interested in the same arrangement.
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I don't have much advice for you, but I'd be careful what you wish for. If you're willing to have any guy, and are willing to make strictly physical, you might end up with a sleeze. I did.

I've been where you are now.

I was 19, miserable, and wanted to be normal. I'd never had a boyfriend, never had sex. Never had my first kiss. I got all of that. I felt normal; I had a boyfriend, and I had been kissed. I was happy. We got physical... and things got out of control.

Don't end up where I've been.

Don't get yourself raped.
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