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Old 12-10-15, 01:18 PM   #1
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I have a good friend on the internet, we haven't met in person, but we talked a lot over the years and mean something to each other. I also learned to know his best friend, with whom I've had sporadic, but meaningful conversation. I don't know him very well, but well enough to know that he's a wonderful chap.

Two weeks ago, his 16-year-old son killed himself.

Now I'm chronically suicidal for 15 years now, I've made a few attempts. I'm very unstable, my situation has improved a lot over the last three years, but the darkness keeps coming back, and I don't even know if I even want it to go. Time and again, I want the darkness to consume me.

But this is new to me, someone who I care about lost his own child to suicide. It's so awful. I knew that such a loss is devastating, but now I feel it. It makes me think. A lot.

He shared this blog article. I think it's a great piece on how to deal and how not to deal with other people's grief. I want to share it here too because I think it's important. It's titled "Everything Doesn't Happen for a Reason".

Everything Doesn't Happen For A Reason ? Tim Lawrence

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Old 12-26-15, 04:45 AM   #2
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It's true! Everything DOESN'T happen for a reason. Everything is totally random and we are a genetic mutation fortunate enough to have survived this long. I understand what you're saying, sometimes when I'm in a good mood I miss the comfort in being sad. I know sadness. I don't know how to handle being happy. I understand the grief of knowing someone that has committed suicide and I know it hurts, and maybe it's just my personality and my ability to handle such things but you can't let it affect you and let it lead you down that road. There is always something worth waking up for. Your friend needs a friend right now. It would only hurt your friend more if you went down the same path as this child. Keep on keeping on and focus on what you have rather than what you don't have.
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