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Old 10-25-11, 06:14 PM   #1
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I am a 26 year old masculine gay guy. I have accpeted being gay and I am dealing with it day-to-day. Lately I feel so depressed inside at the point of just wanting to die. I feel so alone in this world and I would love to find a life-partner but that's the thing, I can't identify with other gay men and I can't get along with them. I can't stand theirattitudes. I've tried meeting and adjusting to gay men but at the end I just feel like i have nothing in common with these people.

I also feel disgusted around them, by their mannerism and their vulgar behavior. I also hate the gay scene which is just everyone having sex with one another, that's all that most of these people think about!!! I stopped going to gay clubs ages ago it's just a place to cruise and find a hook-up. It's just sleazy environment. I only go to str8 places!!! and not to say some str8 places arent the same...gay places take it to another level of nastiness.

I am also a very good looking guy, all the girls I meet always have a crush on me and are all good girls. I get depressed because why do i have to be gay when I have all these beautiful girls that like me who want to have a relationship, settle down and raise a family all the things I truly want in life..Their girls with quality and this is sad to say I have NOT met a gay guy of quality in my entire life..their all the same to me...

I don't want to be gay anymore and live in this lifestyle of vanity, superficiality, opression. I wish I can just die, don't understand why god made me like this....WHY?? WHY??? what did i do to deserve this lonely life with people i dislike

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Old 10-25-11, 07:47 PM   #2
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I am also a very good looking guy, all the girls I meet always have a crush on me and are all good girls. I get depressed because why do i have to be gay when I have all these beautiful girls that like me who want to have a relationship, settle down and raise a family all the things I truly want in life..Their girls with quality and this is sad to say I have NOT met a gay guy of quality in my entire life..their all the same to me...

I don't want to be gay anymore and live in this lifestyle of vanity, superficiality, opression. I wish I can just die, don't understand why god made me like this....WHY?? WHY??? what did i do to deserve this lonely life with people i dislike
I'm gay myself, and never have been or ever will be together with a sassy gay guy. There are plenty of gays in your situation.

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Old 11-13-11, 02:25 AM   #3
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I am a 26 year old masculine gay guy. I have accpeted being gay and I am dealing with it day-to-day. Lately I feel so depressed inside at the point of just wanting to die. I feel so alone in this world and I would love to find a life-partner but that's the thing, I can't identify with other gay men and I can't get along with them. I can't stand theirattitudes. I've tried meeting and adjusting to gay men but at the end I just feel like i have nothing in common with these people.

I also feel disgusted around them, by their mannerism and their vulgar behavior. I also hate the gay scene which is just everyone having sex with one another, that's all that most of these people think about!!! I stopped going to gay clubs ages ago it's just a place to cruise and find a hook-up. It's just sleazy environment. I only go to str8 places!!! and not to say some str8 places arent the same...gay places take it to another level of nastiness.

I am also a very good looking guy, all the girls I meet always have a crush on me and are all good girls. I get depressed because why do i have to be gay when I have all these beautiful girls that like me who want to have a relationship, settle down and raise a family all the things I truly want in life..Their girls with quality and this is sad to say I have NOT met a gay guy of quality in my entire life..their all the same to me...

I don't want to be gay anymore and live in this lifestyle of vanity, superficiality, opression. I wish I can just die, don't understand why god made me like this....WHY?? WHY??? what did i do to deserve this lonely life with people i dislike
Sorry to hear youre having a tough time. I'm also gay, and believe me, for so long, I kept telling myself, this is not what I want for myself. So hard to accept, and I'm actually still trying to totally accept it and move on. I know its not something I can change even if I wanted to, so I'm just trying to learn to accept it. I want just what you do, to meet someone good, and have a bf and just be a normal couple. I know that in order to do that, I gotta put myself out there, so trying to do that. Anyway, I'm not sure where you live, but I can assure you there are plenty of gay men out there that do not go to nightclubs, or act out sexually, etc. I'm one of them, and i know there are people out there just like us. I work, I go to classes, hang out with friends, etc. I do not do any of the things nor am I interested in any of the above things you mentioned. My idea of fun is actually sitting in the park and just talking and eating ice cream. Maybe nerdy, but fun to me. I guess my point is there are all types of people out there, and I truly believe there is someone for everyone. Just give it time, you will meet someone eventually. Anyway, I just wanted to say to hang in there, I totally get your frustration, but believe me, you deserve to be here, just like anyone else. Dont wish you would die, wish you live long enough to meet all the people who will come into your life who will be exactly what you want and need.
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[QUOTE=rocky112;661355]I am a 26 year old masculine gay guy. I have accpeted being gay and I am dealing with it day-to-day. Lately I feel so depressed inside at the point of just wanting to die. I feel so alone in this world and I would love to find a life-partner but that's the thing, I can't identify with other gay men and I can't get along with them. I can't stand theirattitudes. I've tried meeting and adjusting to gay men but at the end I just feel like i have nothing in common with these people.

I also feel disgusted around them, by their mannerism and their vulgar behavior. I also hate the gay scene which is just everyone having sex with one another, that's all that most of these people think about!!! I stopped going to gay clubs ages ago it's just a place to cruise and find a hook-up. It's just sleazy environment. I only go to str8 places!!! and not to say some str8 places arent the same...gay places take it to another level of nastiness.

I am also a very good looking guy, all the girls I meet always have a crush on me and are all good girls. I get depressed because why do i have to be gay when I have all these beautiful girls that like me who want to have a relationship, settle down and raise a family all the things I truly want in life..Their girls with quality and this is sad to say I have NOT met a gay guy of quality in my entire life..their all the same to me...

I don't want to be gay anymore and live in this lifestyle of vanity, superficiality, opression. I wish I can just die, don't understand why god made me like this....WHY?? WHY??? what did i do to deserve this lonely life with people i dislike[/QUOTE/]
Maybe you are looking in the wrong place, although it can be hard to find what you are looking for in the standard gay community because the mainstream gay community is very flamboyant and very open about sex. I don't think being gay is about being glamorous, wild, over the top, obsessed with fashion a hair stylist ect.. anymore than being straight is about frat parties football using women ect.. It's just how the mainstream is and honesty mainstream tends to be a bit shallow for young people.
But there are those who want to have families and are not as wild. you just have to look outside that whole "OMG PENIS!!" group and find people who are more interested in serious things. I guarantee not many people think of gay swhen they think of doctors, historians, matheticians, engineers ect.. but you know there are, it's just not the stereotypical areas associated with the gblt group.
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I know plenty of gay guys who completely go against your description. People are people, gay or not, and everyone's going to be different and have different attitudes. Just be open and I'm sure you'll meet someone who isn't a stereotype. [Clubs may not be the best places to go for that...though admittedly I've never been to one and this is mostly speculation.]
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You sound like me 10yrs ago. (No offence intended here) I hate with an unreasonable passion those gay clubs. I feel like every label, every stupid term used against gay people are present in the childish disgusting attitudes of the men who go to them places. If someone was looking for a reason to not like gays then they would find a reason within five minutes. I felt that everything I didn’t want to be was in those people. Finding a partner was something I felt I was never going to happen to me, I even tried to get a girlfriend to start a life and settle down, have kids etc. I can see now how much of a mistake that would have been. I went looking for like minded gay guys in gay chat rooms, forums like this one, and you know what, I discovered someone who was just a mile from where I lived. And now 10 yrs later we are living together, planning a civil partnership and maybe even adoption one day. Don’t give up, don’t feel like you have to fit into those stupid pathetic gay stereotypes in order to meet someone, there are men out there like you who just happen to be gay and want a normal life like every other man straight or gay. Life IS what you make it; someone will see that and love you for it, trust me. Embrace who you are as a person and do not compromise, you’re not going to find anyone trying to be something you are not. It might take time, but one day you will find someone who connects with you and will probably be anything but what you were expecting.
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I am a 26 year old masculine gay guy. I have accpeted being gay and I am dealing with it day-to-day. Lately I feel so depressed inside at the point of just wanting to die. I feel so alone in this world and I would love to find a life-partner but that's the thing, I can't identify with other gay men and I can't get along with them. I can't stand theirattitudes. I've tried meeting and adjusting to gay men but at the end I just feel like i have nothing in common with these people.

I also feel disgusted around them, by their mannerism and their vulgar behavior. I also hate the gay scene which is just everyone having sex with one another, that's all that most of these people think about!!! I stopped going to gay clubs ages ago it's just a place to cruise and find a hook-up. It's just sleazy environment. I only go to str8 places!!! and not to say some str8 places arent the same...gay places take it to another level of nastiness.

I am also a very good looking guy, all the girls I meet always have a crush on me and are all good girls. I get depressed because why do i have to be gay when I have all these beautiful girls that like me who want to have a relationship, settle down and raise a family all the things I truly want in life..Their girls with quality and this is sad to say I have NOT met a gay guy of quality in my entire life..their all the same to me...

I don't want to be gay anymore and live in this lifestyle of vanity, superficiality, opression. I wish I can just die, don't understand why god made me like this....WHY?? WHY??? what did i do to deserve this lonely life with people i dislike
Something I realized.... if I exist, others exist.

If I feel something is weird, there is others who feel that same thing is weird.

If I am a X type of person, there are others out there who feel exactly like I do.

We aren't alone. There are people out there that think exactly like you do, I am sure. You just have to be patient to find it.
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I know from personal experience it's better to be alone then to be in love with someone you can't have.
I know a lot of people of all orientations complain that there aren't any good people they want to date. But it really sometimes does take time. I wouldn't say that clubs are the best places to meet people looking for something more than a one night stand. I think it also depends on how old you are. Because a lot of people don't get serious until about late 20's early 30's. If I were you I'd thank my lucky stars that I wasn't burdened by love. Because that's sometimes what it becomes. And it's a pain unlike any other.
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I find this very stereotypical. & although a lot of gays are like that... there are plenty who aren't. Some people are just like that. I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time at the moment. I'm sure you're not the only gay who feels that way though.
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I'm gonna say something I said in another post...

Not all gays have 'feminine' behavior. Don't get homosexuality and gender identity mixed up. Just because someone is gay doesn't mean they behave like the oppoisite sex. Though its true some do. But someone can identify with the opposite gender without being attracted to them, like straight tomboys. Or effeminate guys who aren't gay. There are plenty of masculine gay guys, if thats more who you're into. Being gay means being emotionally and sexually attracted to the same sex. Not that you act like the opposite sex. Its a common misconception.

Another thing is that there are plenty of sleazy straight people, which you mentioned, I don't think its that specific in the gay population.

I understand not being attractive to certain types of gay people, but I find it very offensive to say "I hate gay people. They make me sick." Even if you are gay and say that its still offensive. It's like black people who think its okay to say "nigger" because they are black, but its still offensive. How do you think an effeminate gay man would feel reading the title to your post?
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