Its hard to imaging the secret that ive held since 2007 can be slowly tearing me apart. Im not a lesbian, ive proved that to myself, but my attraction to girls equal to boys suggests im Bi sexual. but my parents are not comfortable with the idea of 'gay' so to speak. The hinting of 'marry a rich man' etc suggests they are scared of me wanting a life with a girl. So how should i tell them i could be coming home with a girl, and trust me im waiting until im 18 next year to go out and find someone. How am i going to do it and when? Just to note my mum is too controlling over a lot of my life, and if i leave home, i cannot go back. Im have immense anxiety telling my parents anything, its going to be tough.

I need some help, im stuck, i feel i have no where to go. this issue is hurting me more than a lot of other things.

well, I am a guy. Not bi but 100% gay. Always knew since age 7. The secret was killing me really but my parents always suspected as such. After graduating high school and going to to the prom with a girl and pretending, I just decided to come out with to my mom. They took it hard at first and always wanted grandchildren from me. After a while they luckily did accept me.

Sorry this is eating you up inside. Maybe you are not ready yet and do they need to know? Only you know that.

If you feel you must, prepare yourself because its not an easy thing for a parent to grasp.

Best of luck and I have to go but I'll talk to you here.

Thanks for being honest.

Thanks for sharing :)
I have to say that I think its easier to come out if i actually have a parter at the time. Because theres every chance i could end up finding a guy :/
I just thought it would cause more hurt if they ask how long ive known, and saying grade 7 may upset them more than the fact im bi :/

Your welcome

i recently came out as bi sexual came out when i was 21 after being with a man for 4 years. i am now with a girl and she is amazing. i kinda just blew up on facebook and the hell with everyone thinks and my mom and dad didnt exactly like it my mom is religous but my dad just thinks im going to hell but also i live on my own now so its different but i say do what makes you happy. i mean maybe wait til you go away to college or whatever but life is to short to be unhappy and my parents may not like it but they accept me for what i do and who i am.

When to come out is all up to you. I'm sorry it's so hard to do so.. I can relate to the feeling of it eating you up inside, it's really hard.. Do you have any friends around you that could be of support? I think it's important to have some sort of support when you come out, as you never know how your family will react... Have you talked to them about it before at all? It seems like they might be suspecting it, but tries not to think about it.. Kind of like the way my parents behaved before I told them.. I don't think you need to be in a relationship when you tell them, but of course it might help a bit, just because you'll have your partner to support you.. I don't think you need to consider how they'll feel about the fact that you've known for so long. It's their problem that they've made it hard for you to come out to them, not yours... It's all up to you if you feel like sharing it with them.. and as it sounds like they might have some thoughts about it already, I don't blame you for waiting.. Maybe you could write down the things you want to say to them first?