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Old 01-05-14, 07:58 PM   #1
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(Doctor Who fans: I apologize in advance for the attraction-seeking title, it came to my attention during a Google search that this name apparently is something from your franchise. If you came here expecting Doctor Who, you better move along )

I have a problem. I am an omnisexual (in this context: falls in love with men, women, people who are (n)either and transgenders) and I used to have several wonderful boy- and girlfriends (with benefits) that I maintain good friendships with. However, I recently have fallen in love with an, unfortunately for me, heterosexual girl. She's absolutely amazing, everything I could possibly wish for and more. I dream of her at night, and think about her during the day. When she texts me I cheer up, and hearing her voice makes my day. Our friendship, without even considering my feelings, is wonderful, and we complete each other in an incredible way. She's one of the few people who knows about the 'issues' that bring me here, and has told me that I can tell her anything that's bothering me.
But I'm too afraid to tell her about my feelings for her. We've had conversations touching upon the subject of relationships several times, and what she basically told me is "I would not get involved in a relationship with a friend who is so close to me as you are, because I would not want to risk a friendship which works for a relationship that might not work."
I know a relationship is out of the question, but keeping this a secret is making me crazy. I'm so afraid to tell her about my feelings for her, because I don't want to risk our friendship.

Can anybody please help me?

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That was cute. Does she know you're attracted to women?
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Yes she does. She even expressed her jealousy because I can 'catch fish in both ponds', as she jokingly calls it. She doesn't seem to care about my sexuality at all, and I don't think it's ever crossed her mind that there's a possibility I may be attracted to her. To be fair, I try my best not to show it. I consciously try to act 'normal', and even though it takes some effort (I love hugging) I try to avoid physical contact as much as possible.
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I don't want to be the debbie downer and it's probably not what you want to hear, but I think you need to find a way to get past your feelings for her. If she's heterosexual, I'm afraid there's not much you can do to be with her. Telling her how you feel may end up ruining the friendship. You can't make her gay or bi anymore than she can make you stop being omnisexual. You know?
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