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Old 05-16-13, 05:34 PM   #1
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I'm 26 years I have absolutely no friends at all,none zero,gay or straight.I I am terrible around people,and I cant make any type of relations work.I also have no real purpose or prospects in life,I have a degree in politics but I have not be able to find any work at all.I am supported my parents and my aunts,and it is soul destroying to have to ask them for money. I'm gay which wasn't the such a big problem until a few weeks ago .I went to a huge nightclub and It depressed the hell out of me basically It really brought home to me how pathetic my life is.I saw so many people their with friends enjoying themselves,and their i was all on my Owen with no one to talk to.Plus I also felt like shit because so many of them were in such good shape and I am not.It seems if you not hot and have six pace then you really don't matter in the gay world.Then I did a really stupid thing after I got home from the club.I went on Twitter.and typed the name of the club I had gone too in to the search engine..And basically I came across profiles of guys who had been at the club.And since then I have been reading their pages,and this was a really major mistake because it made me so so depressed . Basically their lives seem great they have friends their cute,and It brought home to me how much of a loser I am.

Their the same age as me ,even younger and they have so many people In their lives and I have no one,to talk to
So their you have it ,really you have to admit my life stinks,any human interaction I could have here would be great.Please comment.
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Old 05-17-13, 10:03 PM   #2
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I'm 26 years I have absolutely no friends at all,none zero,gay or straight.I I am terrible around people,and I cant make any type of relations work.I also have no real purpose or prospects in life,I have a degree in politics but I have not be able to find any work at all.I am supported my parents and my aunts,and it is soul destroying to have to ask them for money. I'm gay which wasn't the such a big problem until a few weeks ago .I went to a huge nightclub and It depressed the hell out of me basically It really brought home to me how pathetic my life is.I saw so many people their with friends enjoying themselves,and their i was all on my Owen with no one to talk to.Plus I also felt like shit because so many of them were in such good shape and I am not.It seems if you not hot and have six pace then you really don't matter in the gay world.Then I did a really stupid thing after I got home from the club.I went on Twitter.and typed the name of the club I had gone too in to the search engine..And basically I came across profiles of guys who had been at the club.And since then I have been reading their pages,and this was a really major mistake because it made me so so depressed . Basically their lives seem great they have friends their cute,and It brought home to me how much of a loser I am.

Their the same age as me ,even younger and they have so many people In their lives and I have no one,to talk to
So their you have it ,really you have to admit my life stinks,any human interaction I could have here would be great.Please comment.
Hey :) Just know it could be changed..You could work out more...learn to com municate with people more, etc. Life can be fixed. :)

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Old 05-17-13, 11:27 PM   #3
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Hey hey,

I can really relate to how you're feeling. I feel pretty alienated from the 'public face' of the gay community, too. It's not really because I don't feel like I fit in physically though. Sure, I could start going to the gym every day, start waxing my chest and start referring to gel as 'hair product' but I actually just don't want to. I've got other things in my life that are more important.

Sorry, I know that might sound like a real stereotype but I think there's a whole lot of truth in it. On many levels what we mostly see of the gay community is incredibly superficial, ageist, sizest and often quite racist. I mean seriously, there is nothing cool about grown men trying to look like porn-stars. It surprises me that it's just accepted as normal.

Right, end of rant :=] I guess what I would stress, though is the idea that those sort of things are simply the most obvious things. It's what we see of the gay community in the media, at nightclubs etc. Fortunately, I think the realities are far less superficial. Sure there's a whole bunch of guys who are into that sort of scene. But thankfully, there's also a whole bunch of people who aren't. They're just, strangely, less visible. A bit strangely, I think that the size of the city you live in seems to make a difference- I've found, ironically, that it's easier to meet down to earth gay 'real men' in big cities. I guess it's just the function of a higher population.

I think most people spend a lot of time comparing themselves to others. It's especially hard when those others seem to be incredibly beautiful, built, successful and happy. But again, I think that inner realities can be different. I've meet gay men who are, technically, fucking beautiful. But really, and again I am generalising, I think the inner reality is somewhat different. I'm actually glad I'm not 40 years old, living my life like a porn star/ go-go dancer, planning my weekends around what drugs are available but always making sure I've got viagra cos meth does make it kinda hard to get it up. Ok, I'm painting it a bit thick, but there's a lot of truth there for me.

I hope you feel better about yourself soon, man :=] I know how hard it can be. The bottom line for me is I would far rather be with an average joe with a heart of gold than some buff sex god whose values are pretty much those of an over-sexed 16 year old. Take good care of yourself :=]
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Old 05-18-13, 02:54 AM   #4
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The world is not fond of your looks...it is fond of your performance....you cant go for a job then earn online, go to casinos, give loans and take interest or maybe go to do something you are really good at .....once you have become an expert you can open your own firm...so don't worry...I have seen people get successful this way.

I am not good looking either...I am rather black, 5'6'' and weight 80 kilos,dont shave regularly....but guys around me worship me....only for my performance and personality.

Another trick is go with guys who are a bit below you...this way you will always get their respect because you are a bit more mature than they are.
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Old 06-10-13, 07:46 PM   #5
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I've found that people who flaunt their "happy lives" in the faces of others are, 9 times out of 10, extremely depressed inside and just too ashamed to admit it.
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