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Old 12-21-10, 09:08 PM   #1
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I've heard people say that before you admit something to somebody else, you have to admit it yourself first. But since I still haven't figured out my issues entirely, I thought I should at least admit that.

I really don't know who I am at this point, so I should stop pretending that I do because that doesn't help. Here it is: I'm currently unsure about both my gender, and my sexuality.

At the moment I've really got nothing else to say. So... Yeah.
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Old 12-23-10, 10:06 AM   #2
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I'm currently unsure about both my gender, and my sexuality.
well i think the gender part would be a little obvious, there is an easy test you can do at home......
unlease you have had a sex change?

and the sexuality part of it, well if you think about girls and guys in that curtain way then you would like both.

unlease it is more complicated?
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Old 12-23-10, 10:53 AM   #3
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Its difficult to figure out who you are, especially when dealing with something as delicate as sexuality and gender. Give yourself time. You'll figure it out, I know you will. Love yourself for whoever you turn out to be. In the meantime this community is here for you while you take the time to figure things out
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Old 12-23-10, 01:57 PM   #4
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Thanks guys ^_^

@funny: What I assume you mean by a test at home would actually be testing physical sex, not gender. I'm aware of what sex I am since it's what I was born as, but the one I'm unsure of, gender is what I actually identify as and isn't necessarily the same as physical sex.

As for sexuality, yeah it's a bit more complicated. I don't really think I'll be able to say for sure until I've tried a relationship with each of the sexes, and at the moment I've got no opportunities that I can see to do so.

@Solace: I know I'll probably figure it out eventually, yeah. But I don't want to have to figure it out, I want to just know. I've got several friends who are gay or bi or pan and all of them have apparently always known that about themselves. Why does it have to be hard for me when it wasn't for them?
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Old 12-23-10, 02:57 PM   #5
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I do not really know what to say that can help you right now, Snowcat, but I just wanted to let you know that I have read your post and I know what you are going through. Determining sexuality, sex and gender can be hard. Really hard. I've identified as bisexual for years, and sometimes I'm still not sure that's what describes me. Those people who seem to have 'always known', they're lucky; but of course, that isn't how it always works.

(((Snow)))
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