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Old 01-27-13, 09:21 AM   #1
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How did you guys accept who you were? Was it hard for you to do it? What did other people think of this? Depending on your religion did you feel bad about who you were? I'm sorry for all these questions but I'm just really lost.
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Um, for me, it wasn't an easy road. I was bought up in a very Christian household. So I was terrified of the fact that I'm gay. I even toyed with the idea of becoming transexual, just so I'd feel normal. Fortunately the guy in me won out :=]

For a bunch of reasons I left home when I was 16. One of those reasons was cos I'm gay. My parents just couldn't deal with it, or even acknowledge it any real way. I actually wanted to be in an environment where my sexuality was validated by people around me.

Ok, that's enough :=]
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Old 01-27-13, 12:54 PM   #3
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The way I accepted it was by admitting that regardless of what I feel about myself, this is who I am and who I always will be. I can change it for the better as much as I can, and the rest has to be taken with brutal acknowledgement.

Judaism has changed my life. It's a three-thousand year old philosophy, culture, and religion that has completely transformed who and what I am. I felt very bad about who I was at first. But Judaism says that no matter what you've done, the right choice is still the most appropriate. I would usually wallow in my own pity (which I still do a lot), but now I know that every step in a correct direction is nevertheless the best thing to do.

Are you apart of a religion? Or is your question about it? We typically don't receive a lot of threads on that topic. Do you want to talk about it?
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I wish folks so much success accepting who you are, because itís not easy in this world.

I knew I was gay as early as 8yo. I was not able to come to terms with it until I was 21, and remained a virgin until that age. School was a nightmare due to my wondering eye. Iím still not able to participate in sport from years of mental anguish from my fellow class members. I guess it turned me again sports you could say. At almost 40, Iím just now starting to appreciate some sports (male figure skating ha'). I didnít even fit in well with the music and arts crowd. I came from a pretty closed minded town. At 21, I just came out with it during a heated argument with my family one day. I do hold some guilt in saying this, but they took it pretty well fortunately. This is only because at that point in my life, my family had just about abandoned religion themselves for various reasons. It wasnít until later in life that we returned to Christianity. There really arenít too many religions that will accept homosexuality at all. So itís a struggle -Ė simply put. Iíve been all through the ďPray The Gay AwayĒ nonsense.

Ok Iíll stop. :~)

I feel you should talk about this more, and some of you struggles/concerns, if that will help you dear Psychology Lover. We are here to listen and offer support. Since you did bring up religion, Iím assuming that is a large part of your concern.

Please keep talking to us, and, most important; love yourself for whom you are. It has to start there, it just does.
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Excuse me it seems that this was in the lgbt section. I didn't know that your question was lgbt centred. I'm personally not lgbt, but can understand that there's a good deal of negative connotation towards the lgbt community in the Abrahamic faiths. I can't speak from every perspective, but if there is anything else that I could help with then I'd like to know.
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Ok, that's enough :=]
Never enough my good friend. You're a beautiful person just the way you are! Your words come from your soul
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So I'm a Muslim religion being Islam and they don't accept Bisexuals, gay or lesbians. I've liked many guys before but never loved a guy. I am in love with a woman now I don't know how to deal with it, I've told a few people and they think it's crazy and against the religion. I would never tell my parent's because they would not accept it, they actually have hatred towards LGBT people :( and I know that is really sad. I've loved this woman ever since I saw her but she's straight and she's married but what's the harm there I can still love her can't I? I really want to be with her I always think about her. She's ever so beautiful and ever so wonderful in her own ways. If I did tell her the worst that could happen is sh won't have the same feelings towards me. So I'm lost on whether or whether not I should tell her how I feel. I would like to spend the rest of my life with her always knowing she is safe. She means everything to me. Does age matter no it doesn't, I don't know what I should do now
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The only troubling thing here is that she happens to be married already. Regardless of religion, trying to pursue a relationship with someone already married, lesbian or entirely heterosexual, gender preference really takes a major backseat there. If the feeling of love becomes mutual between the two of you, then you should suggest them getting a divorce. If it's a crush, then you shouldn't be afraid to tell her that you have feelings for her. But it shouldn't result in her being unfaithful in the marriage. That isn't fair to her husband. Unless the husband is alright with a multiple partner relationship or okay with divorce if you want an active relationship with her and the husband doesn't approve. Once again, if it is just a crush or affection, you should probably tell both of them if she wants a relationship with you as well.

Your sexual preference really isn't the big deal in this situation.

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It's not a crush it's actual love, I actually really love her. I've never experienced feelings like this towards anyone else.
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Then I think everything else I said applies in that situation.
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