from the tinybuddha
1. Meditate or do yoga.
One of the first things I did was head to a yoga class. It took my focus away from my thoughts and brought my attention to my breath. Yoga is also very relaxing, which helped ease my mind. Yoga helped me stay present to my experience so instead of jumping to what could happen, it brought me back to the nowóthe only moment, the most important moment.
I didnít do much of this during the weekend, so I literally had to bring myself in front of a mirror and force myself to smile. It really does help change your mood and relieve stress. I also felt lighter because it takes fewer muscles to smile than to frown.
3. Surround yourself with positive people.
I called a friend who I knew could give me constructive yet loving feedback. When youíre stuck in a negative spiral, talk to people who can put things into perspective and wonít feed your negative thinking.
4. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive.
For example, instead of thinking, ďWe are going to have a hard time adjusting to our living situation,Ē think, ďWe will face some challenges in our living situation, but we will come up with solutions that we will both be happy with.Ē
5. Donít play the victim. You create your lifeótake responsibility.
The way I was thinking and acting, you would think I was stuck. Even if our living situation becomes unbearable, there is always a way out. I will always have the choice to make change happen, if need be.
6. Help someone.
Take the focus away from you and do something nice for another person. I decided to make a tray of food and donate it to the Salvation Army. It took my mind off of things and I felt better for helping someone else.
7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward.
Itís easy to dwell on your mistakes. I felt terrible that I acted this way and that I wasted our weekend. The only thing I can do now is learn from my mistakes and move forward. I definitely donít want to have a weekend like that again.
I donít remember lyrics very well and itís probably the reason that I donít enjoy singing, but every time I do sing I always feel better. When we sing, we show our feelings and this provides an amazing stress relief.
9. List five things that you are grateful for right now.
Being grateful helps appreciate what you already have. Hereís my list: my cats, health, a six-week trip to Asia, a new yoga class that Iíll be teaching, and for my momís biopsy coming out clean.
10. Read positive quotes.
I like to place Post-It notes with positive quotes on my computer, fridge door, and mirror as reminders to stay positive. Also, Iíd like to share with you a quote by an unknown author that was shared in a meditation class that I attended:
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.
Happy positive thinking!