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Old 08-14-11, 08:24 PM   #1
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(tl;dr short version on the bottom)

Sometimes the hardest thing to see is whats right in front of our noses, I know it's cliche but it wouldn't be overused if it didn't ring true. I've been outcast, bullied and threatened as a kid, turned into a teenage bully, now I'm 20 and the results are coming in, I've failed most of life's tests.

I stopped believing I was a smart kid. I stopped thinking I should be a good guy. I fell into the trap of becoming a bully in order to not be bullied. I stopped caring when I should have cared the most. I didn't study hard enough. I didn't show respect and in fair turn received none.

Somewhere along the line I've chosen each time to do the wrong thing. It didn't happen all at once. It's not like I woke up one day and was like "hey I think I'll turn into a dick because no one wants to be my friend and I get picked on every day". It was hard for me growing up. My parents didn't help me with school, my siblings weren't allowed to help me with bullies, the school couldn't do anything about the bullies and I was too small to defend myself. Slowly I just chose to eat instead of be eaten, bully instead of being bullied.

Name calling, throwing stuff, stealing, trouble starting, being disrespectful at every turn. More than one chip on my shoulder.

Now I'm struggling to get my fail filled transcript and average ACT score so I can get into a community college. When I get there I'm going to struggle to learn how to be a good student and be a good guy again. I don't have many friends or good stories. I deserve it honestly and I'm not asking for pity, I'm rightfully ashamed of myself.

My inspiring point is to never give up. If you are a nice smart possibly nerdy kid, don't change, ever. Use bullying as fuel for your fervent studying and expression. Don't compromise your morals and world view because of a bully. Express yourself and educate yourself. Don't be afraid to ask for help with school, or bullies or making friends.

If you're a bully, it's never too late to turn around, as long as you are honest and work to change. If you're a person who see's that lonely kid getting bullied, for pete's sake just help out! Being bullied and getting no help is horrible, especially when you're just a kid. Even if you just see a lonely awkward kid, keep trying to be friends, it makes a world of difference.

Thanks for reading if you have, I hope it means something to at least one person.
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I really enjoyed reading this! It touched me on a few levels! Thank you very much!

"My inspiring point is to never give up." Especially this line! Never give up and never surrender!
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I've been dealing with alot of bullying currently and most of my life. I suppose people can tell when your a weak person. I sometimes want to go to work and go postal. Not that I would but the anger is there.

I'm trying hard not to change. So yes, your post has touched me. Thanks.
I have trust issues now. But I'm trying to keep being me and keep being a good person. But I've been through alot.
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I just recently had my first taste of office bullying, nothing physical but because the bullies were mostly female a lot of it was mental abuse. Females love to use subtle and long lasting emotional tactics that devastate the victim. I thought that was my first case of bullying but looking back I was usually bullied in one form or another since primary school, since it was always (well usually female) again it was mostly emotional abuse.

I always seemed to also fall or get involved with guys who treated me like shit and hurt me both phsyically and verbally. The effects of this long term treatment is devastating and I could well understand why one might take the stance of being the attacker instead of the victim. I do not encourage this response but can well understand the logic.

At this moment in time I am feeling quite down and I just wanted to say after reading your thread that it really touched me. It was very inspirational and has moved me when nothing has for quite a while. For a few fleeting moments there I believed in myself again and maybe because of my overally emotional state at the moment I almost wanted to cry.

You have written beautiful words and you should be proud of the man you have become and the person you want to be. Never change for any one but yourself, believe in who you are and you will never go wrong. You seem quite young still and I am amazed at the maturity in your words and know whatever life deals you from now on, you will choose the right path because you have an inner strength that no one can take from you.

I wish you all the best.
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I'm glad I helped you guys out. I just realized that I put this in the wrong inspiring section but it served it's purpose and that's what makes me happy. I've been "writing" on my phone and on here of course and it's usually very honest and so far it seems to be therapeutic.

With that said I have a long ways to go. Words truly don't mean much, actions are what matters. If your words and actions are good then you're golden, but I have more than a few things to work on. Signing up for school is good but in the end I still have to make something of myself
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