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Old 09-06-09, 09:59 AM   #1
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My brother told me in July he and his wife were expecting their first child. I was so happy for them and looking forward to the arrival of their baby. I had even already started knitting.

Today (father's day) I found out they had lost the baby. There were problems seeing the baby on the ultrasound and they were going to have further tests next week but in the meantime she started bleeding, so I guess the baby was never going to make it.

I can't stop crying and wondering about the baby. I feel my brother and his wife's pain and feel so bad for them too.

My husband has ignored the whole subject, from when I told him there were problems and even tonight. I don't want much from him, just to be acknowledged, even for him to just ask what happened or a hug, but nothing. Sometimes I hate him, why can't he pretend to care.

Anyway, I'm off track. I don't know how to grieve for my niece or nephew. I guess I just want to say it's not only the parents that are affected, it hurts all the family.
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*hugs* I am so sorry to hear about that. I really hope everyone is able to cope with this loss. It's such a tragic thing. My thoughts and prayers will be going out to you and your family. I so wish I could give you a warm hug right now, but I suppose this will have to do: *hugs tight*
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Thank you for your kind words and thoughts.

I am at work now, cried a bit this morning when friends were being supportive. Hubby still has not said anything. Hate him at the moment.

It feels like everything is tainted. I sent them a parents to be card and gave them each a present for the baby. Those things will always remind them of their first pregnancy, but on the other hand maybe it is proof for them that their baby did exist if only for a fleeting moment.
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so sorry (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))
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