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Old 10-14-10, 09:38 AM   #1
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Let me start off by saying that I do not believe in God, but I know there is more between heaven and earth as I've gotten that proven to me.

I lost my best friend to cancer 10 years ago: https://www.takethislife.com/grieving...ted-die-48781/

Today I went to see a lady who is supposed to be a clairvoyant healer (she comes highly recommended by others). We spoke for a while, and she told me my friend had not crossed over yet, that she was stuck in this in-between, maybe because she died so young (age 27) and that it was preventing me from moving on. She also told me it was not good for my friend to be stuck in this in-between, and that we had to help her cross over. Again I say that this lady comes highly recommended by alot of people.

She told me to visualise a white stairs, with a bright white light, and that I was hugging my friend for the last time. She then told me she was a man and a woman come out of the light to greet my friend, to help her cross over.

Right now, I'm not sure how I feel... if that lady was for real or not I don't know, but it has opened up some wounds in me that were in pretty deep, and it hurts so much.

I had said my good-byes to my friend a few days before she died (I'm actually the last person to have ever spoken to her). So it was tough to hear she might still be... "around", that she might not have been ok for the last five years. According to this lady she is now, though, but it pas painful to sit there and listen to her.
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Old 10-14-10, 01:16 PM   #2
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I am sorry for your loss. It must be painful to go back and think about it now.. Do you have any friends that knew her too, that you could talk about this with? Sometimes it helps to write or talk to someone, even if it is hard at the moment.
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Hi Mitza. I never had anyone to talk to who also knew her. Her parents dealt with it in a completely different way then me (we all react differently), so I've never been able to talk to them about it. We had no common friends, as we only had each other apart from our parents and siblings.

It huts so bad right now it literally feels like my heart is breaking. I really hope this is not the beginning of a new deep depression. I barely survived it last time.
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((((((((((((Vimsen)))))))))))))

You can always talk here about what happened.. Maybe it can help to put your thoughts into words?.. I wish I could take the pain you feel away.. Try to take deep breaths.. Focus on being here, now.. Sometimes that helps a little..
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Let me start off by saying that I do not believe in God, but I know there is more between heaven and earth as I've gotten that proven to me.

I lost my best friend to cancer 10 years ago: https://www.takethislife.com/grieving...ted-die-48781/

Today I went to see a lady who is supposed to be a clairvoyant healer (she comes highly recommended by others). We spoke for a while, and she told me my friend had not crossed over yet, that she was stuck in this in-between, maybe because she died so young (age 27) and that it was preventing me from moving on. She also told me it was not good for my friend to be stuck in this in-between, and that we had to help her cross over. Again I say that this lady comes highly recommended by alot of people.

She told me to visualise a white stairs, with a bright white light, and that I was hugging my friend for the last time. She then told me she was a man and a woman come out of the light to greet my friend, to help her cross over.

Right now, I'm not sure how I feel... if that lady was for real or not I don't know, but it has opened up some wounds in me that were in pretty deep, and it hurts so much.

I had said my good-byes to my friend a few days before she died (I'm actually the last person to have ever spoken to her). So it was tough to hear she might still be... "around", that she might not have been ok for the last five years. According to this lady she is now, though, but it pas painful to sit there and listen to her.
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I'm a bit of a sceptic when it comes to clairvoyants etc, there may or not be anything after life and if there is I'm not sure I'd want to a. hear about what had happened to the departed. b. pay someone for the privilege.

I find the thought of a clairvoyant giving you such potentially damaging information, quite disgusting, if she is genuine surly she would understand how giving out such info would affect friends and families of the departed.

Sorry for being sceptical but has she suggested you go back for another session to help your friend move on?
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Vimsen,

Do you watch Ghost Whisperer?

It's interesting that this lady says your friend has not crossed over. I am interested in knowing if you are planning to go back and talk to her some more about this.

I do believe that what the lady is telling you can be true.

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Just came from my doctor. He told me to get out of the house more (I tend to isolate myself) and get out of this myself. What's the point in reaching out when it gets you nowhere?
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3t, I am not going back to that lady. She did say we helped her to cross over though. I don't know if this lady was for real or not, I know there is more out there then what meets the eye, but if she was for real it was very painful for me to hear that my friend might not have been ok for the last five years... I had already said my good bye's to her and was at peace in that regard so this ripped up some bad wounds. I think she needs to be more careful in the future to say stuff like this to a person who is grieving.
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Old 10-15-10, 06:20 AM   #9
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I am sorry Vimsen, I didn't make things worse for you by asking you if you were returning to the lady or anything else.



Do you like to go for walks? Maybe just getting out for a short walk will help you some. Maybe have a nice cup of tea outside and watch some birds. I have bird feeders outside that bring me much joy.

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Vimsen,

My last post was incorrect...
I meant to type:

I hope I didn't make things worse for you. Probably didn't make sense when you read it.

I've been up since about 2am....sorry!

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