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Old 05-13-09, 03:26 PM   #11
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(((((HUGS)))))) I send my sincerest love towards you and your family. I know what it's like, I watched my grandfather and father die and my grandma has terminal cancer and is on hospice right now. Be strong, maybe you can accept it was her time. Good luck and my prayers go out to you.

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Old 05-13-09, 05:46 PM   #12
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Old 05-13-09, 05:53 PM   #13
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((((venom))but ((((((((mitza)))))))) best wishes for you and your family, i hope you get through this and im so sorry for your loss!
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Old 05-14-09, 03:03 AM   #14
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mitza im truly sorry for ur loss.
about the cry and regrets.. just let life take its course, and focus in the present remembering her good memories.

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Old 05-14-09, 07:09 AM   #15
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Thank you for the hugs everyone. They are much appreciated. *hugs back*
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Venom, I'm sorry about your grandparents and father...(((((HUGS))))))
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Old 05-14-09, 07:32 PM   #17
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When my grandmother (I actually have several) when my maternal grandmother died (about 3 1/2 years ago), I didn't cry right away. I wasn't there with her when she died though the week she died I had been severely depressed and suicidal. I had called her once angry about something and felt bad immediately. That whole week I wanted nothing more but to call her just to hear her voice, just to let her know I love her. But I kept saying... I'll see her again next week. The week before I had went to my violin lessons and she came to the house on her monthly visit to drop off some food, I said I'll see her next week.

The day she died I went to the store to buy some bread and cereal for the house, and he said 'you want milk', this guy there was always pressuring me not to walk an extra mile to get cheap milk and grilled me with questions when I didn't buy milk from him, and I said...my grandmother will get it for us.

I went to school, I don't know something inside me said to try to live. That same day I got called into the counselors office and they were going on about me wearing the same clothes all week, asked if I was still taking my medication (I had never taken it to begin with), and I said not that week(otherwise they would have kicked me out as was the contract), and they said thats why (and I was like grrr). Anyway so they said they'd call my dad.

So I went to class and they called me out and the counselor looked nervous, and I said did you call him that fast? And she said quietly no. And I walked out to see my dad, and I was like is everything okay did something happen to one of the kids? And the counselor is looking at me and then my dad takes me to the car and he sits down and I said hey dad what's going on? Is it one of the kids?

And he says...your grandmother she...died, your uncle found her in the bathroom on the ground they think she had a heart attack. And right away I kept saying you're lying, you're lying. I didn't cry. I was in so much shock. I felt heartless. I didn't cry.

I wrote a eulogy for her funeral that everyone loved and I was asked to speak for a writers youth group. The next day I sort of cried...but at the funeral I cried. And after a while it dawned on me it hit me she was gone.

And I dreamt dreams where she was alive and saying what...I didn't die, I was on vacation this whole time. And me so happy to see her, and in every single dream. In every single dream I apologize to her for being the crappiest granddaughter. When I moved I wanted to call her but I realized she was dead and it hit me. She was gone. I wrote a poem about how much I've grown and the person I was then that she knew and who I am now is something she would have loved and I'm sorry, and don't even know if she can hear it.

So what I'm saying is Mitza, just because you don't cry doesn't mean you didn't care. Sometimes it means you cared so much, that you're just in shock, your body doesn't know how to handle it. And one day, maybe years later something may happen that will remind you, you may see someone who reminds you of her. And you'll start crying perhaps. Just wailing. I know that it's been 3 1/2 years now, and just a few weeks ago I was at Mcdonalds and I saw a woman and her daughter who reminded me of my grandmother and I almost started to cry.

It's hard, it really is. For me when I was a kid losing my grandparents was my greatest fear being left behind. But. It'll be okay, it really will be.

I'm sorry for the long post.
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Thank you Albinorat. *hugs back*
The funeral is on Friday, but I'll go see my family on Wednesday. I'll probably be gone for a week. I hope others grieving will find their peace.
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My thoughts are with you Mitza.

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My thoughts are with you too Mitza...(((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
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