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Old 09-06-15, 08:28 PM   #1
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It's been six days since I got "the call" - the hospital notifying me that my Mom, aged 86, passed away that morning.

It's been a raw week. Family coming and going, funeral arrangements, government forms.

We had a beautiful graveside ceremony for her on Friday for just family. A friend officiated the service.

Although I knew the blocked artery was like a time bomb in her body, and that she was elderly, and that she was ready to go on to the next world ... it still hurts. And surreal. It feels one moment like it's been an hour since she passed away, the next it feels like it's been a decade. Funny how time gets bent and twisted in grief.

It's so nice to have my home quiet and tidy and peaceful again. I'm a notorious hermit and introvert, and although I love my family, it was a lot of sensation and energy to process.

My faith tells me she is with the Ancestors, and reunited with my Father. But I still miss her so much! Especially her phonecalls out of the blue: "Hel-lo. What-cha doin'?"

I can still hear her voice. And it's comforting and sad all at once.

My prayers and sympathies for all others who are grieving the loss of a loved one.
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Old 09-07-15, 05:49 PM   #3
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I am really sorry to hear about your loss Raven :( I know that you loved your mom and that you shared strong bond with her, but its good that she isnt suffering anymore


Keep being strong person as you are Raven, let your heart grief her

Its never easy to lose person that we love so much...
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Old 09-07-15, 08:21 PM   #4
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I am very sorry for your loss.
It's not easy to lose your mother
I have been through this years ago.
In time your heart will look past the
way she died and remember only the good
and the love she showed you. It's natural
and ok to grieve now. My prayers are with you
and your family.
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Old 09-07-15, 08:54 PM   #5
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Dear TTL friends. Thank you for taking the time to share your kindness. It really helps. It's a week today. Again, time is such an inconsistent delusion.

But I will keep putting one foot down in front of the other. My summer holidays are over and I go back to work tomorrow. I'm really glad about this - except for the getting up early in the morning! - because I do NOT want to sit around at home alone right now. I'm looking forward to going back to a job I love, for the most part (when other adults don't piss me off) - I love the energy of the kids and I'm looking forward to going back to that.

I also just wrote in my TTL journal. That was therapeutic. Which is the chief purpose of a journal, I believe.

Take care, have a pleasant evening.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your mom passing ravendarklight I send my condolences.
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Just a few more weary days and then,
I'll fly away,
to a land where joys will never end,
I'll fly away.
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Thank you, sherrycat and FromtheHeart. I really appreciate your kind words.
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Dear RavenDarkLight,

My deepest sympathies for your loss. I know from my own experience it's the hardest thing I have ever had come to terms with. Even when you know a loved one is dying, you can never be prepared once it happens because the soul just doesn't work that way. Always keep looking up. May her soul rest in peace.

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Old 09-24-15, 10:33 PM   #10
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Dear Labyrinth Walker - thank you so much for your kind words.

I wound up on a medical leave from work. Didn't see that coming! It's funny (not really) how I thought I was going to be okay ... but the body said "Nope. You're not."

I'm off for a month. So I'm focusing on healing right now - physical wellness, counselling, lots of time outdoors with my dog.

One day at a time. Can be a cliché at times - right now, it's helping me get through this. So is coming to TTL.

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