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Old 05-04-09, 02:59 PM   #1
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Thursday. April 30th. 2009. I lost a very close elderly church member. In our Church we have as my old pastor would call them, "Bad boys" or as my new pastor called them "back row boys" and it now has dwindled down to...one left, Gale. 2/3 of them are gone. Bus, passed away on December 6th, 2008. Jack, Passed away last thursday, April 30th. Our youth group has been very close to these guys cuz we would go to there houses and help up and lighten their days a little bit. I Missed a partial day of school, that counted as my first day missing school. Ever. Never had I missed a day of school until I had to go to his funeral. He had asked me to sing at it a while back, because I sing as the lead lady on our praise team at church, and he absolutly loved my voice. So I missed school for him, my first day. I really can't afford to miss a day of school for Jack's funeral, but I know I'm going to regret not going if I don't. It's so hard to see the back row of our church...with only one man, missing his friends. I miss them both, so much. Jack's Memorial service is at my church this thursday at 12:15...i think..and his..something to do with all his war servings...at 11. What should I do?
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If there is any way you can miss some school to go, I think in the long run you will be glad you did it. Jack mattered to you. This is his last day. I have often felt that it is the little things in life that will make it best remembered. Nobody remembers all the days of school they went through. That's just something you have to get through to make the goal of a degree, certificate, or diploma. But you will not forget Jack's funeral, I bet.

I have a friend who is 65 now, and he told me a couple years ago that when he was a young man raising a family he never thought friends were very important. He said that now he is older and an elder in his church, he often is the only person standing at somebody's grave for a funeral. He told me he is afraid that when he dies nobody will be standing there, just like those folks whose graves he is presiding over now. It bothers him to think of dying alone.

Time is fleeting. If you think he matters enough to your values of what really is important, go to his funeral.

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Thanks, Hottea. I went, and am glad I did.
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