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Old 09-14-13, 02:21 PM   #1
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I lost my Little sister 2 years ago. Im the type WHO doesnt talk about my feelings(even tho im a girl). And since I only have sisters, I have always been my dads son. So when she died I was the one WHO handle everything and not having time to think about it. But now.. im constantly angry and constantly sad. I feel alone and not one day goes by without me crying. I went to therapy for 6 months, but it didnt seem to help and I just feel like giving up. I cant think about her as it Hurts too much, but I cant stop either.. How do I get better... I just want it to stop
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Old 09-14-13, 08:39 PM   #2
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I lost my brother several years ago-more than 10years at least-and I still cry sometimes. Yours is still very recentI am sorry it happened
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Old 09-15-13, 10:25 AM   #3
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Sorry for your lost too.
This wasnt even suppost to happend. She died a week before her 18th bday. And all because the doctors wouldnt help her.
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Old 09-15-13, 08:01 PM   #4
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Sorry for your loss I understand what you are going through.
One month from now it will be one year for me experiencing
the loss. I understand what you say being angry sad not
having the strength to deal with it. I understand how doctors
don't, can't fix this. My advice is I have been to grief support
meetings they help some it's been more helpful to me to hear
it from someone that has been through it more than someone
that studied a book. It hasn't been that long for you, two years
feels like a life time but isn't really. Some days I think of her cry
all day but on others I smile glad she was part of my life and
thankful for that. You loved her it's obvious. Always remember
she is not all gone lives in your heart she will live on in you and
others that knew her loved her fight for that. I wish you the very best.
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Old 09-16-13, 02:11 PM   #5
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Thank you, your words really helped and I wish you the best too. People say it gets easier with time, but it doesnt. You just learn to live with it, make it a part of you
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Old 11-08-13, 07:13 AM   #6
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This perspective helps for some people, can not know if it will work for you, but worth a try:

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Answer this question: what would she have wanted from me?

Would she;

A - Want me to go around crying all day, not letting go, staying stuck in the past. Not forgiving. Grieving. Not accepting the loss.

or..

B - Letting go. Live my life. Forgive and accept. Cherish the good moments we had together. Laughing and smiling again.

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It is natural to feel sad. It is natural to cry. But the best way to honor someone you experienced a mutual love relationship with... is to live. Not to stop life. That does not mean to forget, you will never forget. But it means to accept two important facts. 1) All the tears in this world isn't going to change anything, and 2) the dead person would probably not want you to feel that way. If you died and somehow was conscious of it, would you want your family to suffer for several years? I'm guessing your sister would rather see you smile and live again.
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Old 11-08-13, 07:29 AM   #7
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Sorry, didn't realize how old this thread was. Hope you're doing better anyway.
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