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Old 09-10-13, 02:26 AM   #1
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I just discovered that a favorite instructor from my childhood was lost to brain cancer 3 years ago. I lived close enough to my old home-town then, by chance, that I could have even visited before he passed away. I know it didn't just happen but the story is new to me and so my grief begins only now. Of the teachers I was most influenced by in my life, Jim was a wonderful, bright, caring and motivating person. He never knew how much he meant to me at that time in my life, and I never thought I should have told him, until now. I was young enough then that it was hard to put into words what he meant. Hindsight is golden but not very helpful after death. He was my teacher, I also was in clubs he lead after class and he made my life better, more livable even when it was bad elsewhere and I don't think he ever understood. I remember him well and even time (age) and distance cannot take away the pain of loss to me, for this world.

I am Very sad.
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Old 09-10-13, 08:33 AM   #2
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Old 09-10-13, 07:43 PM   #3
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Awwwwwwwwwwwwww that sucks :( It's that horrible catch-22 that we don't tell people how much we appreciate them until they've gone. Somehow it just doesn't seem appropriate to say it when they are living.

I suppose the important thing is that he influenced you in a good way - He sounds like a good person, and that was a gift he gave to you, expecting nothing in return. I'm sure there were many people that influenced him when he was younger, and now it's your turn to do the same and change a few lives (please start with me! )

Very very sorry for your loss! Massive hugs to you
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Thanks guys. He's been gone 3 years now, or nearly 3, so I know it is old news for most people who knew him. I'm just so far away it's the belated news that for me is still fresh. I know in life that people ahead of me in age will pass away largely before I will. That doesn't make it all better, but being realistic can help somewhat.
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