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Old 01-18-10, 11:02 PM   #1
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My Mom went on hospice this week. The diagnosis is "end-stage dementia."

We don't know how much time she has left, but it's hard to lose her a little bit at a time. I know it's especially hard for my Dad who has been caring for her. She's now in a hospice facility, because she really does need more care than he can handle.

It's hard to grieve for someone who is still here, but I find that's what I'm doing. Mom is still alive, but she isn't there anymore.

It's sad.
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Old 01-18-10, 11:12 PM   #2
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My step mother was the same. All her life she had been intelligent and active. The last few years there really was no quality of life. Just consider that she will soon be in a better place. In a way it's a shame modern medicine can prolong life the way it does.
I wish there was something I could say to comfort you...but I do understand a little what you are feeling.
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Old 01-18-10, 11:15 PM   #3
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My heart goes out to you old lady. My grandpa died last year after a long battle with cancer and even though I saw it coming, I still broke down after he died. My hope for you is that you have plenty of good memories about her. Be there for your dad. I know it can be hard because when my grandpa died I felt like my feelings couldn't compare to my grandma's feelings but I still did my best and tried. God Bless and I will pray for her and you.
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Old 01-18-10, 11:28 PM   #4
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I was just feeling alone. It was good to hear from others who understand. My job involves comforting others, but sometimes I need to be on the receiving end.

We are over 1200 miles from Mom and Dad because of my job, but I bought them a computer to use to SKYPE, so I get to see them 2-3 times a week. And, I speak to them on the phone every single day. We've bought tickets to head back in two weeks, but it feels like a long time to wait.

Thank you for your notes of encouragement and caring. It helped.
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