I feel like I'm losing my mind in grieving

RavenDarkLight · 02-13-16, 11:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Highwayman300

I suppose it is normal, as I am going through almost the same.
Every day I get up I quickly wish my wife is still there when I open my eyes, and even when I see the bed empty, I quickly go downstairs looking for her, hoping it was all a bad dream, a nightmare.

I still feel the need to cook or clean everything as she was there. She usually spent quite a bit of time in the garden, so every now and then I check on it as if she was there.

Lastly, I mean no disrespect, but I feel almost everyone is closer to their mother than they are to their father.

Hi, Highwayman300. I'm sorry for the loss of your wife. That must be so hard, being without your partner. How long has it been since she's passed?

I wonder when or if it stops - the expectation to see your loved one after they've gone.

And yeah - I loved my Dad, but a Mom - that's a tough one. At least it was for me. I loved her in a totally different way. And as a daughter, I think there's a special bond there too. Again, at least that is my experience.

I hope you are finding a little more comfort and strength to go on without your wife. My heartfelt sympathy to you.

DPG1 · 02-29-16, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by RavenDarkLight

Yeah I'm replying to my own post. I just wanted to share that I've done some reading on the good ole internet. What I'm going through is "normal". Phew!

Seriously. Sometimes the internet is evil ... but sometimes I wonder, what did people do before the age of instant "answers" that can come from the internet?

I seriously thought there was something really wrong with me. But to read articles on grief written by counsellors, social workers, etc. really helps me not be as afraid for my mental health.

First of all, my condolences on your loss. I remember what it was like when my Dad died suddenly and yes, it really messed me up as well. Normal reactions.

As for what people did before the age of instant answers, good question. Perhaps they had a good friend or two who they were able to talk with to help come to terms. Back when communication meant face to face and not keyboard to keyboard.

Hang in there and don`t be afraid to reach out. Sometimes talking to someone is enough to help cope with your loss.