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Old 12-30-09, 11:52 PM   #1
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How long should a person grieve. My father died on my 16th bday I am almost 21 and I still cry for him sometimes. I wish things would have been different and that he knew I loved him. I was cruel to him and heartless because I didn’t understand his illnesses. I wanted him to be a part of my life but all his energy went into his bible and god and evil vrs good…. Never me. But he was still my daddy and when he died my life went to hell. Only recently have I gained some kind of normalcy. Even writing this I tear up. How long am I going to cry?
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Old 12-31-09, 08:22 AM   #2
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it's all up to you watersign. i can understand how you feel and no matter how much you want to bring back the past to make ammends, it's not gonna happen. i think the best thing for you to do right now is to move on with your life and try to learn from it. you will meet your dad at some point and i can assure you that he doesn't want to see you suffering.

be strong and grieve not for those who had passed-on , but to those who lives and yet know not.
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You should cry as long as you need to. You should cry as long as your eyes fill with tears. You shouldn't forget, but you shouldn't let it over-dominate. Learn, make peace, but continue to love and remember. It just shows you cared.
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Old 01-18-10, 03:05 AM   #4
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Honestly, cry as much as you feel you need too. My sister died when I was only 5 or 6 and she was younger than me. I don't have many memories of her, but yet I still cry for her when I feel sad. But don't let it control your life.
I hope your life gets better soon (:
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Old 01-18-10, 08:06 AM   #5
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My grandpa died on my 16th birthday and I remember being alone all day balling my eyes out and praying frantically for a miracle that I never got. I felt like he just gave up after my grandma died and I was hurt by it. I still hate my birthday, but I try to get through it by remembering all the good and funny times. I'm sure you've heard that before, and I'm sorry I can't offer you more except love and support.
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Old 01-18-10, 11:06 PM   #6
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tears are a sign that you are alive
tears are a way of showing pain
as long as you are alive
and as long as you are in pain
it's OK to cry

if your pain is too overwhelming, find someone you can trust to talk about it with - don't try to carry it alone

HUGS - I care!
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It's alright to cry. You can even cry when you're 40. There's nothing wrong! It just shows how much you loved him. Take your time, that is the process of grieving.
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Old 03-04-10, 12:56 PM   #8
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You should cry. As much as you want and as long as you want.

The reason therefore; it shows how much of importance he has been to you
and how much you still care for him.

No tears go to waste, I'm very sure wherever he is now, that you make him proud.

Hang in there buddy, hold your head high!
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