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Old 09-20-11, 12:56 PM   #11
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oldroadog-Sincerly, thank you with sharing that with me.I'll check into those poems you mentioned.
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Old 09-20-11, 06:08 PM   #12
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You're more than welcome - i hope you draw some comfort from them, they did help me.
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Old 09-20-11, 07:13 PM   #13
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Would you please mind telling me, where I may find them online? Thank you!
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Old 09-20-11, 10:27 PM   #14
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So my Lab is starting to do things, weird things, like my Roo use to do. It actually made me stop and see how short her life truly was; how are lives are also. I have NO idea, why he started doing these weird things. I noticed something a few days ago, but didn't truly take notice. That make sense? I guess, he feels, he doesn't have to be submissive any more. She was a dominate female. He seems much happier, at least to me. He does follow me around more, so may be he's doing better as well? I think so, but I'm not my Lab. I still had some ups and downs with her decision today, truly don't know why? I mean, she's up in Rainbow Heaven and I know, I'm unable to have her back. I still miss her so very much. I feel, it shouldn't have been a choice for myself to make, but allowing mother nature to do what's right. I regret that I have done this, but I can't take it back and now have to move forward. That's the biggest issue I still have;moving forward from it. Why is it easier, for the animal kingdom to move ahead, when people aren't? I mean, we did come from the apes; so it's been said on tv. Even that is or isn't true, why can't I just still be okay with her final choice I made? I never did want to let her go, since she's special, like my other dog is to me. Maybe, because I no longer have my cuddle buddy. My Lab, still wont cuddle with me, like he use to. I guess I need to stop asking why and just deal with the reality of life......sad that it is.....
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Life is so different, without Roo here......
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Today was kind of hard. The Vets office called, to send me a copy of my lab's thyroid meds that I had my daughter get for me. They said, she left too quickly. She also said, that they have the bills, for my Roo. Was going to send me a copy. I choked up. I told her, I had made arrangments with the Vet. on the day that she was in. Could bring myself to say, put to sleep. She must have noticed that I was having a hard time, with this conversation. She then went on to inform me, that she wont send me a bill or copy of the reciept for my Labs medication. I told her, I still miss my Roo and it's hard. While I'm starting to get better, I only got a short amount of time; least to me. She reassured me, that I did the right thing for her. It was kind of her to say that, considering, I'm still struggling with it. I told her, I appreciate the fact, they wont send me the bill and I would be in, to pay what I owe them. She was very kind and understood, I'm still grieving. She went on to tell me, about 2 dogs, that she got much shorter time out of, than myself. I felt for her and told her I was sorry to hear this. She told me, it's hard to do what right for them, because they just can't explain, how much they may be suffering. She finally told me, that take comfort in knowing that you did what you felt was right for her. I still miss her and forever will........
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Today was a rough day! I went to give my Lab a hug, I needed it. He let me for a brief time, then moved. It reminded me, of how much I miss Roo! She would allow me to hug her for as long as I needed to. She knew, she just had that insight and knew when I needed to release and hug her! It brought back memories of her today. I miss having her to just hold, love, and cuddle with! I miss that she knew I would just need her, and she would stay by me, until she knew I was ok. I miss her so much..........
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I always look at Roos picture. I still am grieving. It's getting a little better, every day. I'm not so depressed, as I use to be. It still bothers me, to make that kind of choice for an animal. I would have just like to see her quietly sleep and have just slipped away. That way, I wouldn't carry some guilt that I still have. I only can think, still, that I truly did what I felt was in her best intrest. I'm still am questioning myself about all of this though. I know/realize it's too late, to change my choice/decision. I think that's what bothers me the most. Making it. I keep reminding myself, that she was in pain, what the Vet. told/explained to me, and him trying to let me know; doing the right thing. I had to pay her Vet. bill, since I didn't have the money at the time. I walked in their, it was really uncomfortable for me. I kept having flashbacks, of bringing her in. The room, she was in, the door was open. It did kind of seem weird to me; but their doors are always kept that way. I kept looking for her; weird, but true. I kept wanting her to run out to greet me, taking her home, and just cuddling like we did. Needless to say, it didn't and I know, wont ever happen. I still have to take my Labrador to them. I just will request, I don't have to go into that particular room. I just can't get that image out of my mind; still.......
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For some reason, I'm thinking about Roo, more, than I have lately. I honestly don't know why? Maybe it's the fact that my Labrador's lonely and once in awhile, does seem to "look" for her. I know that animals "see" things differently or "feel" things differently than a human. I wonder though, does he miss her? I know it's a silly question, but it still lurks in the back of my own mind. I know, that he's getting older; aren't we all. I know, that since she's gone, that he's changed; alot. He's not always the bouncy boy he was, with her around. I noticed, also, he's more protective; like he needed to "feel" like he had to. I know, that people analize their own animals, with human emotions/expressions/feelings. I don't think that losing a friend, of over 7 years, is just going to pass, like clouds on a windy day. He's been sleeping a lot lately, which does concern me. He's not active any more. I mean, at least he can now/finally be himself, without her attacking him. I'm sure, in some weird way, he can sense this. It makes me wonder, IF I've still made a correct choice. Yes, I seem to be "obsessed" with the thought of doing what's right for her at that difficult time. I wonder, still IF it was right or me just being selfish? Being selfish for my Lab. I hope, some day, I'll be able to FEEL I did what was right and not QUESTION if it was/wasn't? I miss her and I'm sure, I always will. I miss my other Rottie as well, and STILL have never foregotten her. Life's harder, when the choice isn't made for you and you live with the choice you're forced to make.......
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