I just called one of my best friends, who lives across the country about 3000 miles away to wish him a happy almost Christmas.He answered the phone and I could tell right away something was wrong.
Yesterday 12-23-2011, his only daughter was on her way to work and was hit and killed in a head on car accident. She was a senior in high school, graduating this spring and was planning on going on to college. I had known her a bit as an adult to a teenager; she was a great kid.
Nothing in this life ever prepares you as a parent for this kind of loss. I am too far away to be there to help Dave now, plus jobless so I can't take the trip financially, though I would if I could. It was a short conversation. He said he has to still go to the funeral home, and find her something to wear. There is nothing I can do or say to make the situation any better and the distance only makes it feel more impersonal when I try to say I'm so sorry though I know it is received... and it isn't enough.
Rest In Peace, dear daughter.