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Old 11-24-10, 10:59 AM   #21
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Thank you all so much <3.....I'm balling my eyes out just reading your post!...It's hard I won't kid bout that....I find myself crying ALOT!...Just sitting watching the tely and I will just start balling!...

I'm trying to keep my mind on other things...still taking care of grams, but the hurt and sadness is just overwhelming at times....I just can't believe it....He's gone and won't be coming back and I just haven't figured out how to deal with it yet....Kids are a mess but seem to be holding up on the outside better then me...I start to cry just talking to them cause I haven't lost my dad, he is still a big part of my life and I can't imagine the grief when he goes if this hurts so much how will I ever get thru that...guess I should watch the kids for pointers!...God, I just don't know.....time heals...

Thank you again for your encouraging and thoughtful words, very much appreciated!

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Old 11-25-10, 01:54 AM   #22
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Hi ya TA,

Honey no death is easy.....losing dad was my first experience and from what I have read from you, the feelings are much the same.. I hope your family are pulling together as you will benefit from all the support you can get.....hour by hour, day by day....I am not going to say it gets easier, however you learn to manage other aspects of your life......I still cannot believe dad has gone and that at times I am living a nightmare......just seems so surreal....Take care my friend, I am struggling to find any words to ease your pain.....

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Dear TA,

I hope you continue to be strong. It's not easy to have a sudden lose....I understand. It's very painful and can be overwhelming. Every single second is hard to go through.

My prayers for you and the kids.

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Thank you Dania....I am trying to be strong!

Oh mama....just hearing from you is comforting in its self! I kno you hav been thru loss and you too are a very giving person....I'm still THRILLED you are coming to America!!!!!! We may not let you go back home! lol

Today is Thanksgiving her in America...The first in a line of Holiday first without him...The girls and Ben are coming over to my apt....oldest son still isn't talking to me and hasn't since funeral :( I've sent him message after message...It's my grandbbys first thanksgiving, gonna miss tht today...We all deal differently...I think Chris has some misplaced anger with me cause I had just recently divorced his dad and was making him try to find own place to live....he had still been with me...oh its a long story and I've not the energy today!

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Thinking of you.
It must be hard having one of your kids angry at you, especially when you are hurting so much already.. I am sure it will pass, though. You sound like such a caring and supportive mom.
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Hi ya TA

Thank you for those lovely sentiments....I am coming to USA but not sure when now....I have been very unwell since my dad passed and I am very fearful for my mum at the moment....

Give your son time, my kids started giving me a hard time over my grief in the early stages, I just said to them one day you will understand...and he may be processing this.....You divorcing Randy did not make him pass on and Chris will need some time to get his head around the whole thing....My daughter still holds a grudge that I left her father, and always sees him as the victim........

You can't take on the whole world at this time, for you to support the other's you need to allow your grief to flow......and all those little things that seemed so important before somehow just done measure up to worrying about.....

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I'm so sorry about your father and very concerned about your mum too...My dad keeps teling me getting older is NOT for sissies! lol

Seriously tho you take care of yourself right now! I wish there was something I could do to lighten your load, but know you are in my prayers <3

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Soooo....Here we are, 2011 and I'm feeling totally lost....Don't know how to feel better....Did 15 days in jail for a violation of my probation on a weed charge, can't feel better that way anymore!
I'm on lexapro, it doesn't seem to be working...still crying ALOT!...Kids are still a mess....16 yr old pregnant....Just found out 19 yr old might have krohns disease...still taking care of 99 yr old grandma...and feeling totally overwhelmed by life! I just haven't been able to get a grip...
Hav not been able to talk to anyone and finding it very difficult to even write this...Hope it helps...I'm really running out of things to do, just feel like shutting down for good!
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((((((((TA)))))))) *huge hugs for u*
is the lexapro new? hoping it'll kick in soon if it is.. .
try to take care of yourself, too, not just everyone else. how are the kids dealing with their situations? are u overworrying & what-iffing?
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Sounds like you have a lot to deal with, ta. ((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))

I agree with Blue, try to find some time for you in all this. You will get through it. Keep writing here if it helps. We are all here with you.

It must be tough to see your daughter pregnant at such a young age... I hope you can find some way of coping with it.. Are you two able to talk together?
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