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Old 11-19-10, 10:01 AM   #11
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Thank you Mitza...You are very wise!! I really do appreciate your comments...I've been feelin a little alone (except for the kids) but there are things I don't want to talk about with them...I'm a good listener for them tho!

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Old 11-19-10, 10:11 AM   #12
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I'm glad I can ease your pain a tiny bit.

It is hard to listen, and you need to be able to talk, too. Feel free to talk about everything here. Otherwise, do you have a friend you could call?

I'm here with you my friend, you are not alone. *hugs*
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Old 11-20-10, 11:31 AM   #13
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OK, last night youngest son came over and we had a realy good talk about his dad...Ben was always there for his dad, even when Randy first got sick 10 yrs ago, there was lil Ben helping his dad as much as possible, even if it was just sitting with him...Randy was diagnosed with Hep C and was sick, very sick with it 10 yrs ago, since than his liver had regenerateed some but this bout of pnuemonia was just to strong for him to get over that and his diabetes...anyway...Ben has a very special bond with his dad and it's really messin with his head atm...I hope talking helped, but I kno time is the real healer and we will keep Randy in our hearts and talk about him to keep his memory alive for the next generation...I wish he could have seen his only grandbby grow up, this wil be her first Christmas...

It helps me to write down things like this, it's my way of coping with a very sad situation! 4 kids to console can take alot out of me cause I'm hurting too, but we are a strong family, little messed up at times but we love each other very much and that love will get us past this!

One day at a time!
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Old 11-22-10, 09:40 AM   #14
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2 weeks 1 day thats how long it's been now...time keeps going...some more issues hav come up...we pick up ashes today...we are taking them to Pensacola after first of year to scatter on beach which is what he wanted...now the kids are disputing who will keep his urn untill then! I really hate this stuff...I hate seeing the kids in pain and I hate not being able to go to Randy with problems they are having:(

My youngest feels guilty because she has a different biological dad, but Randy raised her, loved her dearly...She has relationship with biological dad that now is VERY strained...I think it will all work out...one day at a time!

We Miss U Randy <3
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Oh God, I miss you Randy!!....We were NOT ready for you to leave us!...How did this happen??I'm not strong enough, I need you to help with the kids!! What do I do now?....
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Massive hugs to you and your family. My father died extremely suddenly and it certainly takes longer than a week to get over. Keep talking to your family and with their support and stories you all discuss it will help. I have two sisters and we all dealt with it differently...but make sure you talk. I didn't and and still now struggle with it but my sister forced herself to cry, chose to look at the pictures...talked about him all the time. I hid it away and I don't think I did it the right way. Everyday it does get easier I promise x
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Thank you very much Can'tWait...and my deepest condolences to you and your family!
Guess your never really prepared for a loved one to die but when it happens suddenly, idk it just sucks! And I kno it's way harder on the kids, I hav 4 youngest 16 oldest 23 they are shell shocked and I just wanna cry and usually do everytime I see them.

Thank you very much for your kindness....I'm sure time will help.

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i'm sorry, ta :(
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Old 11-24-10, 01:50 AM   #19
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TA I am so sorry that your Randy left so suddenly......My friend there is not time limit on grief and dont let anyone tell you any different.....I lost my dad in February and I still cannot believe it and I am still struggling....you take all the time you need for you and the children...they need you!!!!!!!! If you find your self wearing his clothes, keeping little things that would have met not much before it is all apart of the grieving process.... I carry my dad's wallet, the last cloth I wiped his face, his pillows he died on.......all sorts of things but it helps...

It is ok to love a soul that was struggling!!!!!!

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Rene I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You must be devastated and absolutely overwhelmed by this sudden turn of events. I wonder sometimes where we find the strength and courage to do what must be done and it is crises like this where as humble and broken as we feel, we surpass ourselves in the name of love.

Trust in your nature to care and love. Trust that you are a good woman. Forgive yourself and others and accept the love and well wishes of those who care like you.

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