06-08-11, 04:56 PM
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For Bereaved Parents
I resolve...
That I will grieve as much, and for as long, as I feel like grieving, and that I will not let others put a time table on my grief.
That I will grieve in whatever way I feel like grieving, and I will ignore those who try to tell me what I should or should not be feeling and how I should or should not be behaving.
That I will cry whenever and wherever I feel like crying, and that
I will not hold back my tears just because someone else feels I should be "brave" or "getting better" or "healing by now."
That I will talk about my child as often as I want to, and that I will not let others turn me off just because they can't deal with their
own feelings.
That I will not expect family and friends to know how I feel, understanding that one who has not lost a child cannot possibly know how it feels.
That I will not blame myself for my child's death, and that I will constantly remind myself that I did the best job of parenting I could possibly have done. But when feelings of guilt are overwhelming, I will remind myself that this is a normal part of the grief process and it, too, will pass.
That I will not be afraid or ashamed to seek professional help if I feel
it is necessary.
That I will commune with my child at least once a day in whatever way feels comfortable and natural to me, and that I won't feel compelled to explain this communion to others or to justify or even discuss it with them.
That I will try to eat, sleep, and exercise every day in order to give my body the strength it will need to help me cope with my grief.
To know that I am not losing my mind, and I will remind myself that loss of memory, feelings of disorientation, lack of energy, and a sense of vulnerability are all normal parts of the grief process.
To know that I will heal, even though it may take a long time.
To let myself heal and not to feel guilty about feeling better.
To remind myself that the grief process is circuitous - that is, I will not make steady upward progress. And when I find myself slipping back into the old moods of despair and depression, I will tell myself that 'slipping backward" is also a normal part of the grief process and these moods, too, will pass.
To try to be happy about something for some part of every day, knowing that at first, I may have to force myself to think cheerful thoughts, so eventually they may become a habit.
That I will reach out at times, and try to help someone else, knowing that helping others will help me to get over my depression.
That even though my child is dead, I will opt for life, knowing that is what my child would want me to do.
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I never met you and yet I know you, at least I know much about you. I know you need food, shelter and things to do to keep you sane. And I know that especially, you need someone . . .
I can't say that I am that someone, but I am someone . . .
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10-10-11, 07:47 AM
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Well written, and helpful for those whose need it focuses on. How very true.
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We have to become creative problem solvers, not just tolerant burden barers.
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10-11-11, 01:26 PM
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TTL Platinum Member
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I think it's just beautiful.
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Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~ Mary Anne Radmacher
Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one. ~ Bruce Lee
That which does not kill us makes us stronger. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
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