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Old 03-07-12, 11:49 PM   #1
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In several threads, I've mentioned how much better I'm doing. I told you about a few things that helped me, and now I'll give you a whole list. These things may not work for everyone, and some of you may see them as stupid. All I can say is that I probably wouldn't be here right now if it wasn't for these things.


1. Affirmation- When I feel negative thoughts coming, I say "Thank you for sharing, Monkey, now go back to your cage." This affirmation came to me after a conversation with my business coach about fear of rejection. He said the ego is like a monkey that acts up whenever we face something he doesn't like. I was surprised at how effective it was when I first made it a habit. My thoughts would change so fast, I'd sometimes forget what I almost got mad at. When I created it, I went more than a week without getting angry. Quite an achievement for someone with anger problems.

2. The Law of Attraction- this is philosophy that states that you attract the things you focus on the most, into your life. I'd say this philosophy is the biggest contribution to the good changes in my life. The Secret is a documentary about the Law of Attraction. Success coaches such as Bob Proctor, Randy Gage, and Jon Mercer (all of whom have YouTube channels) are big on this.

3. Watch people getting along- I tend to get very pessimistic of the general public. One thing I learned in my studies of LoA is to focus more on what I want. In this case, that means positive people. So I watch movies and TV shows about friendship and that have unusual amounts of harmony and love among the characters. I still enjoy some of the shows from my childhood, including shows from 1990's Nick Jr. and PBS Kids, which happen to have plenty of both. YouTube can be your friend here. I also like to read children's picture books.

4. Eat foods that fight depression- Stock up on foods loaded with vitamin B. In my case, that includes bananas, salmon, and potatoes. Here are some more choices.

5. Sleep with brainwave entrainment in your headphones- YouTube has many hypnosis and brainwave entrainment videos for happiness and depression relief that you can download and convert to mp3 to play on your mp3 player while you sleep. One channel to look for is FingerprintDiVA.

6. Watch subliminal videos- YouTube has a certain channel I go to called iGodMindTy that features several videos featuring videos full of subliminal messages, binaural beats, and visualizations all in one. Watching one in particular every day caused me to speak louder and more confidently than what I'm used to. Another caused me to eat healthier and overcome urges to eat when I wasn't hungry.

7. Limit your time with negative media- whether you realize it or not, what you watch and listen to can affect your moods, consciously or subconsciously. I sold my violent video games and made a habit to avoid breakup songs (which are about as negative as my tastes in music would go, lol), slapstick comedy, insult comedy, and fight shows (DBZ, etc). I didn't just decide to do this and do it. The decision and actions naturally came because I was so used to immersing myself in positive movies, music, etc.
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8. Go to bed early, wake up early- I've had sleeping problems for nearly a decade. Basically, I loved the idea of staying up late so much as a kid, that I did it again and again until I screwed up my body's clock. I took time management advice from Brian Tracy and went to bed by 10:00pm to wake up early in the morning. He said at least 2 hours before I have to, but I made a commitment for 5:30am. It took a while to get used to, but it's unbelievable how much energy I have when I do it

9. Read something positive first thing in the morning- get a book or get on a website and find some stories that are uplifting and/or motivational. Do this for one hour every morning. This will prepare your mind for the rest of the day.

10. Take a day off- commit to making one specific day a week your "holiday." No reading, no working, all things you love doing. Spend time with loved ones, go for walks, watch a marathon of comedy, watch a marathon of 1990s kid shows (Like me!), play your favorite games paint, dance. Whatever you love doing -- preferably that you don't usually do on other days, do it all day.
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11. Get picky- what kind of people do you want around you? What kind of clients, what kind of friends, what kind of lover do you want? What are the personalities you look for in friends and lovers? Write a list of these traits. Don't write what you don't want ("I don't want a drunk"); write exactly what you want out of these people ("My friends are non-drinkers"). Also, write it as if you already have it ("My friends are open-minded, my spouse is funny, etc."). This way of writing will leave a greater impression on your subconscious mind.

Many of my mentors (like Brian Tracy and Dr. Michael J. Duckett) said that doing this caused them and their clients to manifest the people they wanted. My walls are a little too high for me to get in public and have the same results, but I believe them. Those of you who are not social phobic may have better luck. Even if you are social phobic, there is another good thing that can come out of this exercise.

Remember, over 7 billion people live on this planet with you. With time and patience, you'll find people who are just right for you. And when you meet the jerks, blow them off and say "Next." Never be ashamed of being picky about who to spend time with. Once I understood this, I no longer cared about trying so hard to impress people, which was something I struggled with since I was a kid. Now I am accepting of the fact that I am who I am, others are who they are, and it's just the way it is. The world wouldn't function well if every single person had the exact same personality. Stop trying to fix them (because, face it, how often do jerks listen to us when we try to get them leave us alone or make them see the light?) and start looking for like-minded people.
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12. Video/audio mentors- Many people have gone through what we are struggling with, and have overcome them and returned to lend a hand at no cost, via YouTube. You can also use programs like Downloadhelper and Any Video Converter to convert the videos into mp3s and listen on the go. Some videos don't just tell us what to do in an easy-to-understand way, they even give simple activities that anyone can implement.

YouTube is my biggest window to learning how to overcome challenges. Who would have thought something as obvious as searching YouTube for advice on anger management would lead to the discovery of so many awesome mentors and tips for all of my problems? Through YouTube, I have seen many videos that helped me with my sleeping problems (eliminated my insomnia, YAY!), procrastination, my self-esteem, even forgiveness issues. I learned some daily disciplines and habits that are so engrained that I no longer even have to think; I just do them. I prefer professionals who frequently make new material. Brian Tracy, Jon Mercer, Randy Gage, Joel Osteen are my favorite mentors.
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13. Use your inner voice responsibly- Self-criticism is okay when it's time to learn from our mistakes and learn some new skills. It's natural to want to improve. But a lot of us constantly bash ourselves unfairly. Riddle me this: if you had to chose between someone who only cares about your flaws and consistently insults you, and someone who has nothing but great things to say about you and loves you unconditionally, who would you rather have in your life? You have control over your "inner voice." Make him/her tell you how awesome you are more often. Get him/her to compliment your accomplishments more often.

14. Appreciate your successes- celebrate small achievements the way you would something big. Look for as many successes as you can every chance you get, no matter how small or silly or irrelevant they may seem. Do what I do; make a list of them. You woke up way ahead of everyone else in your house by accident? Jot it down. You missed the bus and walked 1000 miles in the cold while carrying heavy grocery bags? List it. Reward yourself for EVERY success. Pat yourself on the back, look at yourself in the mirror and say "you're awesome." Raise your fist and say "YES!" Did you do something big, like pass a test or fix something that had been broken for a long time? Do something to spoil yourself. You're worth it.
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15. Be different- do you have talents that people around you don't have? Do you have hobbies that others find immature, yet you don't want to change them? GOOD! Embrace them and wear them on your sleeve. Some people will join the ride, others will not. The others are not meant to be your friends if they can't accept who you are. Human personalities are like puzzle pieces; some just fit together better than others.

Remember, you are not alone in this world. Other people are just as nervous about their interests and talents as you are. The world needs more people who do things out of the ordinary and are loud and proud about it. If you were to suddenly quit doing that thing that it seems no one else does, then not only are you hurting yourself just to impress people who aren't worth your time, but you're making it hard for like-minded people to find friends.

Picture this. You are now in a room full of strangers. You walk to the middle of the room, clear your throat and say, "Raise your hand if you like *Insert something you love doing, but you believe most people don't*" Before you know it, this guy raises his hand. That girl raises her hand. Suddenly, you're not so different, and you have potential friends to enjoy your hobbies with.

I don't know about you, but my social life would be so much better if I could go into a room full of 20-somethings and ask "Who still loves 1990s kid stuff, but doesn't constantly complain about everything made after 2000?" and spend the rest of the night reminiscing about Nickelodeon's Saturday lineup.

That's the attitude you have to have. There are people who think the way you do and want someone to share common interests with, but would rather keep their head down. Be willing to be the one to stand out and show them that like-minded people do exist. By doing this, you'll be giving them permission to raise their hands and perhaps be your "hobby buddy."


As long as we're on the subject, let me just say:

- I am a 22 male and still like 1990s kid shows and cartoons
- I read children's picture books
- I like 1990s PBS Kids and Nick Jr. shows (including the first season of Barney and Little Bear)
- I dislike corporal punishment
- Purple is one of my favorite colors
- I enjoy looking at beautiful scenery, and compliment it
- I like fingerpainting
- I color coloring books with crayons
- I draw with crayons
- I search EBay for 1990s toys
- I've never French kissed a girl
- I've never had a relationship
- I have a CD with nothing but 90s commercial jingles and theme songs
- I love to watch 90s commercials
- I fantasize about my dream romantic life, even going as far as having play dates at home
- I wear purple, pink, yellow, and orange clothes
- Remember those 1990s outfits with the outrageously clashing colors? I don't dress that way, but I love those fashions.
- I love N'Sync, Backstreet Boys, Britney Spears, and other pop stars from the late 90s, early 2000s, even the one-hit wonders like B4-4
- I like more than one Vanilla Ice song
- I listen to video game music
- I play a lot of old school games (Super Nintendo, Sega Genesis, etc.)
- I'm very sensitive
- I don't hate Justin Beiber, Miley Cyrus, Twilight, or any of the things people constantly obsess over
- I don't follow celebrity gossip
- I don't keep up with current events
- I pay no attention to politics
- I don't watch TV
- I have very little knowledge of sports
- I'd rather play with kids than hang around people my age
- I have no idea what people my age do for fun, besides smoke, drink, and have sex
- I think sex is the most overrated thing ever
- I am saving myself for when I am ready for kids
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16. Focus on what you like about you- This is related to 13. What do you like about yourself? Are there any habits and beliefs you hate to see in others that you would never do yourself? Then start there. For example, I dislike to see adults hurting kids. I have high admiration for those who agree with my stance. Even though I am the one making the rule, I am still a person, therefore I am including myself in those whom I admire. The sole fact that I am an adult and I would never hurt a child, despite living in a world where many disagree is enough to make me fall in love with myself even if I didn't have anything else to like.
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17. Observe successful people with similar problems. We all hear about people who used to have our problems, and went on to overcome them. But let's not overlook people who still have our problems, and have learned to live with and even love them. Some of us have problems that we can't change. Might as well learn to live with them.

For example, I have facial and body deformities caused by a birth defect called Pfeiffer Syndrome. I used to think I'd never make real friends or a girlfriend. There are people who are more deformed than I am -- some are even handicapped -- and yet they still managed to find love and have great families and social lives. Ron Heagy, for example, is paralyzed from the neck down, and he has a wife and kids (some are adopted, one is biological). If he can have great family and friends under his circumstances, so can I.


18. Keep a gratitude list. Regardless of our circumstances, we all have good in our lives. Commit to listing something you are grateful for everyday. Do you live with your parents? Write down that you have a home. Perhaps you don't have bills to pay. Write that. Your parents are keeping you off the street. Write that down. You have a parent or two (I'm not judging you if you don't like your parents, but some kids wish they still had theirs). Write that out. The things you are grateful for don't have to be major. Even if it's something you don't usually think about, like having fresh water in your home, go ahead and write it.
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- I've never French kissed a girl
- I've never had a relationship
Hmm,thanks for the feedback mate,quite useful,cheered me up a a bit. Well,until I got to that specific part...kinda..kinda...feels like losing a big slice of life.


Anyways,it is comprehensive list and it shows that our happiness is linked directly to our mentality.Thanks again. Have a nice day!
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Quiet1, the effort in this post is clear as day and you have provided some substantial positivity on this site which really is quite rare. Thank you!
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