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Old 01-01-16, 01:33 PM   #1
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I haven't had any friends since 6th grade. At 22 years I think it's safe to say that it will never happen for me. I missed out on the best years of life and I can never get it back. I will feel empty and full of regret forever. Seems like there is little point in making friends once you reach your late 20s/early 30s anyway because by then everyone is settling down and focusing on their careers, relationships, family, etc. They all become so boring and serious about life... they don't know how to act wild or have fun anymore. Nothing impresses or excites them anymore because they've already experienced it all. I don't want to be that lame person in the group who has no experience and gets excited over everything like a pathetic kid. Fuck, why couldn't I just have a normal life? Why couldn't things just happen for me when they were supposed to?
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Old 01-17-16, 12:54 PM   #2
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It's never too late for good things. There must be a reason why was so asocial in the past.

Think about this, join the gym, start reading self help books (it's not embarrassing, I do it to), start socializing and risk getting rejected. People come and go.

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Old 01-18-16, 03:12 PM   #3
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It's never too late for good things. There must be a reason why was so asocial in the past.

Think about this, join the gym, start reading self help books (it's not embarrassing, I do it to), start socializing and risk getting rejected. People come and go.
uh... I can't see myself joining a gym anytime soon. My anxiety is way too bad for that. As for the socializing, I don't know. Rejection hurts me way more than the average person. I can make acquaintances but I can never seem to get beyond that point. Like, I never get to the point where other people invite me to hangout with them.
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Old 03-01-16, 10:15 PM   #4
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fuck it'll never happen for me. I'm literally the only person in my group therapy class with no social life or friends. I feel like I might be the only person in the world. I don't know anyone as alone as myself. Even people who complain about not having friends usually have like 1 or 2 acquaintances they hang out with from time to time. I have no one.
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My FWB is 52. He has social anxiety. He has zero friends. But he eventually met me, didn't he?
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My FWB is 52. He has social anxiety. He has zero friends. But he eventually met me, didn't he?
are you trying to make me feel worse or better? I can't tell.
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What do you mean?
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Old 03-12-16, 07:01 AM   #8
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Well, at 25 years old, I met the greatest person and my best friend on a social anxiety site, so thatīs one way to do it , I guess. Have you thought of ways you would try to meet anyone?
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Well, at 25 years old, I met the greatest person and my best friend on a social anxiety site, so thatīs one way to do it , I guess. Have you thought of ways you would try to meet anyone?
I'm not sure if meeting people would help. I can't make a good first impression because of my anxiety. It's so hard to get people to take an interest in me in the first place. But even when I do, I can never hold it long enough to go beyond being acquaintances. I can get them to bite but I can't reel them in. People never want to hang out with me. I always put the most effort into building the relationship and end up feeling like a burden.

Part of the problem is that I don't really let people get to know me... because there isn't much to know. Depression and anxiety pretty much took away my personality. The other issue is that I have no social experience and people are immediately turned off by that.

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Old 04-23-16, 12:07 AM   #10
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I might be hanging out with an acquaintance later on this week. I would hope that it turns into something more, but I know from experience that it's probably better to expect the worst. Still, I'm scared shitless. I'm worried I won't have anything to say and they'll find me boring. I have no idea how to handle this. I guess I'll just go with the flow and try to stay out of my head.

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