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Old 10-12-09, 09:20 PM   #1
 
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OK-it is official. I am going crazy. My DH, who is wonderful and has never given me any reason for jealousy, is working late for a friend and I am totally freaking out. I seriously don't think there is any reason, but with recent events my confidence is completely shattered and I'm thinking things I shouldn't. These waves of insecurity and anxiety are very new, but they are absolutely crippling. How do I deal????
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Old 10-12-09, 10:17 PM   #2
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If you don't mind me asking, what sort of recent events? Sometimes, women have to trust their instincts. But since he's never given you any reason to doubt him, take your time with how you react on those instincts. Try thinking things through, use all your knowledge and senses, because this situation is a very delicate one. Try talking to him, ask him about how his work is going, how the late hours is affecting him...and most of all, look for signs while your doing it.
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Recent events-ugh...

2009 ( as indicated by screenm name) has been horrific. DH laid off, we owe the IRS for the first time in our lives,family mebers dealing with health issues, multiple deaths and two suiicides-including a family member who I was called to find(!), and then, after coming home from a much needed anniversary vacation, I got fired. I've neve been fired before, and the boss said that the people that worked for me hate me and " don't want to work for me and had nothing positive to say aout me". I asked (they are like family to me, we all work together in EMS), and all say he is lying. I don't know what /who to believe, but I guess I thought they would all stand together to fight for me, and instead nothing happened. Just denials and telling me they didn't say anything bad. I know times are tough and they need their jobs (this guy is obviously maniac, as I've seen in the past two years), but I thought people would do the right thing.

Anyway,it has shaken my trust, to say the least.

DH just called, ad said his phone had died, which it does occasionally. I just hate this new insecurity.

Thank you for yor input. I really appreciate it.
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Wow, thats a whole lot to cope with, and you're obviously a strong person if you're dealing with all of that. Hopefully you can find a way through it. Maybe he's doing the late hours to try and fill in for your job loss? If he's never given you a reason to doubt him, maybe you shouldn't . Try talking to him about your new found insecurity, maybe you two can go stronger as a couple through your slight signs of weakness.
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Old 10-13-09, 01:01 PM   #5
 
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Great advice-thank you.

I did talk to him when he got home. I didn't slant it like an accusation, just told him how I was feeling. As always,he was wonderful, we talked for a while and I feel completely better. I feel like such a ninny, but I'm just a little off kilter these days.I can't wait until I get my confidence back!

Again, thaks for the great feedback-this place is awesome!

(and I promise to edit better in the future!That last post was atrocious!Yeesh!)
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