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This is a discussion on Weight within the Female Issues forums, part of the Life's Other Challenges category; I'm just wondering if I'm the only one OBSESSED with my weight? I literally want to shame myself when I ...

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Old 11-02-10, 03:29 PM   #1
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I'm just wondering if I'm the only one OBSESSED with my weight?

I literally want to shame myself when I eat sometimes, I WISH I could be anorexic.

I went through a break up a few weeks ago and hardly ate for a week, lost 5lbs, I was proud of myself. But now I've gained it all back and I feel like such a fat slob.

Why am I so obsessed with my size? It's making everything harder, as I blame always being passed up on me being overweight.
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Old 11-02-10, 03:49 PM   #2
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To me, the way today's society emphasizes weight, and what the acceptable norm is for men and for women makes me ill. If a person is not a size zero or has rock hard abs, then they are treated as if they have the plague, and are ostracized unfairly.
I will give an example of this. A few years ago, a lovely plus sized model had her national lingerie commercial pulled because of the outcries from people saying it was too revealing. But isn't it a fact that every November, on TV, a well known Lingerie retailer holds it's annual fashion show on Television, with barely a complaint, and those models are wearing a heck of a lot less then the beautiful girl who had her ad pulled did.

To me, even though i haven't seen you, you are a beautiful person, inside and out

And it's incredible that here we are, in the 21st Century, and the Human Race still cannot overcome it's prejudice against those who aren't "Perfect"
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Old 11-02-10, 06:37 PM   #3
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Thank you, my Mom tells me that all the time...that I'm beautiful inside and out. But hey...she's my Mom, of course she is going to say that.

I also don't think she gets it...she married her high school sweetheart....she doesn't know how hard it is on women today. And how much their weight can affect a mans attraction to them.

I thought those ads with "normal women" were great...but I am not quite sure society as a whole will ever accept fat women and call them beautiful.

I'm just tired of being the "fat friend".....I want to be the pretty, thin friend for once...the one guys pine over. Not the one guys are embarrassed to say they are dating/sleeping with :(
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I really liked those ads with "normal women" too. And I also, am completely obsessed. Not to fit in with society, but I'm obsessed with my weight because I haven't felt in healthy in so long. I can feel the pressure though. I saw this ad on the train for captain morgan with a half naked woman, and almost lost it and ripped it down. I was so enraged. Because that's of course the way women should be seen, as breasts. That's all. This is not a world I can accept.
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Old 11-19-10, 10:47 AM   #5
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I'm much more attracted to "normal women" than model types. Ever seen that movie "Real Women Have Curves"? The main chick in the movie: HOT.

Just sayin'.

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I'm just tired of being the "fat friend".....I want to be the pretty, thin friend for once...the one guys pine over. Not the one guys are embarrassed to say they are dating/sleeping with :(

Oh my god I know what you mean. My best friend is skinny and always has been and she says I'm beautiful and have a beautiful body .... umm what! can you see? Do you have ocular anorexia? There is no way I have a beautiful body. Hows this for self destructive!! I go on those bbw dating sites but see these hot guys wanting cubby chicks and think "what is wrong with you, you sick bastards that you would want someone that looks like me????" Nice huh? I don't even like guys that would like me for me lol. Welcome to my brain!
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SurferGal, I understand what you're saying. I think I'm eatting myself fat again. I friggin hate myself sometimes because of my weight. When I get overweight I feel like I failed myself. I want to diet AGAIN before I get to heavy but I just end up eatting more. Right now I would like to lose 10-15 pounds. That's not bad. Before I had to lose 60 pounds. When I'm fat I think I look out of control or FAT PIG. Just a constant mental struggle for me. It's almost to the point where I can't enjoy what I'm eatting, anymore.
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Lostlittlegirl, I had one ex-boyfriend who liked me when I was fat. Infact, I think he dated me because I was fat. It was bizarre to me. I was too shy to share myself with him and tried hiding my body from him when I could, I finally told him I was shy of showing him my body. Anyway, he told me he liked bigger women. He also got sad when I started losing weight. He didn't like it one bit. Just very different way of looking at things I suppose. But it was nice to be accepted for me, well until I lost weight and he didn't like it. I thought he'd be happy but he wasn't.

Just had to add that.
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Old 11-24-10, 04:50 PM   #9
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Hi Surfer. It is my opinion that women can look great at any size. Grab a helpful friend or a fashion magazine or just head over to a store that sells your sizes and start figuring out the most flattering types of outfits for your body size and shape and color.
Another thing you can do is take good care of your hair, skin, teeth, eat a balanced diet, drink plenty of water and other fluids, get plenty of sleep, and begin working out if you do not already. Doesn't have to be a lot, start out small and find a class or an exercise that you think sounds interesting and doable.
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