Do you consider yourself to be?
I just ask if YOU Think you are? Because if others only consider it, considering, isn't saying you are, it's giving you power to ask if their right.
I've often struggled off & on in my own life with, am I attractive or unattractive? & in what way?
I've had men & boys be attracted to me my whole life. I remember a HS I was new at, & at first the guys tried to flirt & get me to play back, & I wouldn't respond to them - I was uncomfortable in my own skin - so it goes to say they thought I was attractive. Later in this same HS, I had an older guy, bark at me, & say I was ugly like a dog. He would go out of his way - to lean away from me, show disgust my way ect ect. Now, was I in fact ugly? Or do you think it had more to do with my own actions? I mean maybe in all rights, I was a bi^tch. maybe. The fact of the matter was, I didn't respond to them the way they thought I should, based on my outer appearance. & they couldn't understand it, so I became a target for them to insult me instead.
Also, in my life time, I've been hurt by some very ugly men (outer appearance) - societies standards - & I've been cared for & loved by some very good looking men (outer appearance)- societies standards -
I think & I'm not saying it's easy. OMG. I'm not. I seriously believe it comes down to, our own confidence with ourselves, if we see beauty, than we'll feel it, & because we feel it, it is.
I wonder what your body was signaling to the man that came up to you & your friend... I wonder what you were thinking on a subconscious level to project without even being aware of it.
Sometimes I think that, I'm pretty, or I'm ugly because I believe I am.
I'm also tired of people projecting their own fears of idealism on me, so I wonder, am I doing it first, & they're just responding back?