Hi there. I find when I am dealing with a period of stress, my libido goes way down. It's no mystery why I start feeling amorous about a week into a vacation - it's like I'm so relaxed my body's rhythms start kicking in again - including the libido.
Someone here mentioned exercise and I've found that to be very helpful. It's like when the blood gets pumping everything comes "alive" again, including desire.
Also, I think women's sex drives can change over our lives. My sexual pleasure was different in my 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s. And I have some friends who say the same.
I do not want to generalize here, but when I talk with other women about their sex drive, many of us find there are differences between what turns us on and what turns men on. Another one of life's cruel jokes!
It's also important to get to know our own bodies and rhythms so we can unlock some of the secrets to our very personal sex drive. I don't know about you, but nobody ever taught me about female pleasure until I was in the thick of adulthood! Talk about female sexuality was taboo in my generation, and even in some cultures today, girls aren't encouraged to explore their own healthy sexuality. For years I thought there was something wrong with me because what I saw people enjoying in movies and in some porn just left me cold. I kept thinking, a few strokes and a woman is supposed to climax just like that? Puh-leeze!
I have come to suspect that a lot of the entertainment industry (Hollywood and porn) has again screwed up another part of human experience - and put pressure on us with fake norms and standards about female sexuality. I even had one friend tell me that her boyfriend said to her once, "How come you don't act like the chicks in porn do?" That would earn a person a crack on the side of the head if any man ever compared my sexuality to that of paid actresses!
Please do not put more pressure on yourself to "perform" - cuz that can douse the libido fire too. Try to relax and approach this with an outlook of curiosity and daring to experiment. If you rule out a medical problem, it could very well be that your sex drive has changed a bit and something new or different might get that fire burning hot again.
Hope things get better for you. If they do, you don't have to post pictures or anything for us! We'll take your word for it!