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Old 06-03-17, 03:27 AM   #11
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I know what you mean. When i was a kid I had it all planned at age 9. study hard , work hard graduate university work and have my own family ( and the last part was what i really wanted , because i came from a very loving family ) it wasnt easy believe me from education and market crashes,.... but i stood strong. I never wanted to mix dating and studying. in my mid 20s i had my first date and turned out the guy was married. It didnt get any better over time ( and i am picky and dont do he looks cute ) i go for personality and seriousness and have to know them before dating them. well i am 40 now , the last relationship i had, was again even though he says was very serious and was talking marriage, well treated me with no respect , he was flirting with all sorts and when i mentioned it to him , he said but its nice. But i told him i dont like it, he still did it and i think marriage was never his thing. he wanted it due to financial security or someone to take care of him and the kids ( he had a very strange idea of how to be a dad ) I know lucky escape . I broke it off when i saw he was flirting with another lady right on facebook. but it makes me reflect back in all my life time;
1. no one truly said i love you and meant it
2. I never was given flowers or a personal gift
3. never been pampered or treated to something special

I do not know the magic formula or is it luck , i really dont know. I just want to have a nice husband that love and respects me and to have couple of kids . I dont think it will ever happen. I just go to work home now and i feel so very very empty
Sorry, things didn't workout....hopefully in the future things will change for you. R u trying to get out and mingle? Trying dating sites? I was turned off by the dating sites myself but I tried and at least was entertained for a few weeks. Too much sex talk for me. Idk. Absolutely sucks to be alone at 48 years old.
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I've often felt the same way about women. Finding the right person is hard and when you do find them they're never a 100% fit. Much more like 75/25 at best.
My problem completely....if I could combine ex boyfriend 1 and ex boyfriend 2... I would have the perfect guy. Lol
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Sorry, things didn't workout....hopefully in the future things will change for you. R u trying to get out and mingle? Trying dating sites? I was turned off by the dating sites myself but I tried and at least was entertained for a few weeks. Too much sex talk for me. Idk. Absolutely sucks to be alone at 48 years old.
Why does it suck to be alone at 48? What's wrong with it?

Are you trying to fill a void through having a man instead of filling the void from within?

Like I said, women end up alone regardless, whether as widows or divorcees. Divorce is psychologically the same as battling cancer btw.
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My problem completely....if I could combine ex boyfriend 1 and ex boyfriend 2... I would have the perfect guy. Lol
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While taking time to be single is good (I've been single a long time and I enjoy in personally) I think it'd be better to take a more positive approach to it. Take the time you need to be single rather than "give up" on relationships. Maybe what you need is not to give up on men but figure out what kind of men you want and want to avoid.
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Hi TooMuch, remember me? It's flame and we have sent replies back and forth for a very long time and I haven't been on here in a very long time and I see your still here and having issues with men as I am too. I could not agree with you more. I always enjoyed talking with you because you sound like a very, very nice lady and we have similar problems. I too feel like if me and my guy ever break up and trust me, I think about it a lot, I doubt I will ever find someone again. I'm pushing 40 now and they are all looking for young, slim, 20 something year old shallow girls. I'm none of these things. I've often thought about changing but why should I change who I am to please a guy? They are not going to change for us ladies so why are we doing it for them? Anyway nice to see your still here because you sound like a good woman. You just want to be loved the same as me. Nothing in the world wrong with that. Even balding, fat, and often men with little to no money still think they are entitled to young, slim, fit women and I have to roll my eyes. Not too many men out there that I see look like a Ken doll with nice, muscular bodies and a full head of thick hair but we women have to look like Barbie. It's laughable. I hope you remember me so we can talk more about our problems with men. Take care.
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Also I know we talked about these bullshit chatlines/dating websites in the past and they all say the same thing. Every guy on there is freaking IDENTICAL. All they care about is sex and they all say that typical, "I'm not looking for anything serious right now," bullshit. Are they ever looking for anything serious? Not as far as I can tell. To me when I hear, "I'm not looking for anything serious," that means a one night stand and that's not me.
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