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Old 01-25-18, 03:08 PM   #1
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I've struggled with this my whole life. I hate being a woman.

Women are seen as emotional, empathetic, cooperative, catty, nonsexual, and nurturing.

I'm rational, individualistic, hate drama, very sexual, and child free.

I don't fit into my gender role.

The vast majority of people on this planet insist that women's brains are wired like that.

In the past, I considered getting a sex change, but I would be a 5'0" man and besides, I can't afford it, not to mention that my family would be devastated. Not realistic.

I tried feminist activism to promote the idea that gender is a social construct and that the suggestion that women's have naturally different personalities is sexist. Anything I did was just a tiny drop in the bucket. You can't change society, you can only change yourself.

I tried pessimism to say that life sucks and just try to accept it. But that's not really me, I don't think...

I tried to be promiscuous and I was in the past. I wanted the advantage that women have an easier time getting laid than men. But there's slut shaming which takes the fun out of it.

I tried to go after money as a kept woman and an escort, since evolutionary psychology teaches that women like benefits. That got me branded a gold digger and a cheap whore by people I thought were my friend.

How do I deal with this?
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i don't really subscribe to the whole gender role thing, now there are things women just naturally have a harder time with namely physical strength things generally but not always, now on the other hand men are not as physically flexible as women generally but not always, women are slowly beginning to lose the whole dainty housewife image thing which is good, i would say do what makes you feel good and don't worry about who don't like it because their way of thinking is fading
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You should take the COGIATI test to find it if you genuinely have gender dysphoria. That would be a good start and from that you would have a better idea of what options to consider.
It's easy to find on the internet.
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Old 01-26-18, 07:15 AM   #5
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That test appears to be designed for men.

-650 to -390 Class 1 (Definite Male)
-389 to -130 Class 2 (Feminine Male)
-129 to 129 Class 3 (Androgyne)
130 to 389 Class 4 (Probable Transsexual)
390 to 650 Class 5 (Classic Transsexual)

What about Definite Female or Masculine Female?

Thanks anyway.
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I tried to go after money as a kept woman and an escort, since evolutionary psychology teaches that women like benefits. That got me branded a gold digger and a cheap whore by people I thought were my friend.
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From all of the above, seems like you really care what others say. People will ALWAYS say something, no matter what. Whatever you do, they will always have a comment and most of the time the one you wouldn't like. Don't seek approval from others! Do what makes you feel content and in your place and what works for you!

IMHO please don't become a guy though...
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Thank you for your support, ISOP.

Maybe everything happens for a reason. Had I become a kept woman, I would have been 1. pressured to have kids 2. vulnerable to control and abuse. Why would a man go out and work and I wouldn't have to raise kids? It wouldn't make much sense. So I will just work from home.
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I often feel like I don't fit the traditional female role either, and it's been tough. I never wanted kids, probably due to childhood abuse. I've always been very sexual but not considered attractive by most men so that was tough. I am happily married now though, heterosexual. Thank goodness I found someone who doesn't fit the "traditional" male role either and does half the housework, half the cooking and so on.
I think most gender differences are conditioned. It's like people say "men are better than women at math. But we're talking two overlapping circles with a huge variation of scores *within* each group and a tiny variation of scores *between* each group.
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I am more emotional, empathetic, nonsexual and nurturing then society would claim to be "masculine" or "manly" while being young male.

I gave up on today society some time ago, there is some ideas accepted what is just plain stupid. Big corporations often depends on you and society not questioning accepted ideas and you might get in not present or awkward situations if you do question them.

When you become authentic yourself and don't try get accepted by people/society - there will be people who will not like it, you will not get along with everyone or as much people you do now, there will be relationships who will end. Possibly there will be less people in your life.

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Thanks guys. I can relate. Good to know I'm not alone.
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