Originally Posted by love4pancho
Unfortunately, it is a truth that although it is our bodies and our choices it does affect another (or at least it is supposed to) for the rest of their lives as well. The father will at least have to pay child support for the rest of his life, unless he decides to be the biggest piece of shit in the world and sign over his rights to the child. It was the state of the father that ultimately swung me toward getting an abortion, though I probably shouldn't have. I was told if I had the baby that they were going to go to court and petition to take the chlid away from me because I was an "unfit mother" due to my psychological state.
It influenced my decision as well. I was going through a divorce at the time I got my abortion, but I didn't hate
my husband. We'd been through so much together, he was young like me, and we were both already overburdened with trying to be parents to the child we had.
Bringing another child into it, especially at the moment we were splitting up, would toppled this family. I couldn't do that to him, to me, to my son, to any of us.
the decision lies with the pregnant woman.
Some women do not
take their partners' feelings or desires into account when deciding whether to continue a pregnancy or terminate it, and when that's the case, it's usually because he doesn't deserve
the right to any input of the matter. Through his actions, he's cut himself out of the loop.
As in "Bloodyhands"s situation: the man in this situation is a 28-year-old who habitually goes out with 16-year-olds and is now serving time.
I don't give a good goddamn about what he thinks is "best" for the girl to do. He's already practically destroyed her life!
He's a criminal, a statutory rapist. Why should he have any say in anything?
Nobody wants to go through such difficult decisions alone. When a woman chooses to go through it alone, it's generally because there is nobody around her that she can trust. It's because everyone around her, including the person who got her pregnant in the first place, has proven untrustworthy. Sometimes, a person has to act alone for her best interests, if it has been proven that nobody around her has her best interests at heart.
It's sad when this happens, and I feel a lot of empathy for men who ended up with children they didn't want, or for men who wanted children that never got to be.
Nevertheless, the decision to continue the pregnancy rests on the person with the uterus.
Nobody should be able to force her to continue it; nobody should be able to prevent her from continuing it.