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Old 03-24-14, 11:12 PM   #1
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I feel like one of the ugliest people on the planet & living in this materialistic, aesthetic driven world that is so painful.

I used to be able to feel sexy & confident all the time... what a failure. The sight of my own face makes me sick... will I ever stop hating myself?

Someone did something very cruel & scary to my personal accounts today... someone I used to love very much... & it just stuck in my head, so close to home...

I hope one day this will pass & I'll be able to view myself objectively & not loathe what I see.
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Hi caged bird, Im sorry someone messed with you and your personal accounts. Is that what seems to be triggering your self hate and feeling that your ugly? Or is it just adding to the pre-existing problem? Either way, I feel like your user name "caged bird" says a lot about you and your basic nature. I think on the very deep inside, where it really matters, you see yourself as a beautiful creature, able to fly, to conqeur, like a bird. But when it comes to other peoples perceptions of you, you see that their personal opinion might not measure up to this deep internal view of yourself. Maybe you feel the expectations of society and the pressures it puts on people through advertising and the media. But in reality, your CAGE is the problem, and not YOU. YOU are the BIRD, everyone else and society as a whole is your CAGE. Therefore you might have to find a way to seperate yourself from other peoples perceptions of you. A lot of people consider me to be a decently attractive person, yet on a daily basis Im surprised if someone takes a liking to me. On the contrary, Ive met people, who by societies standards, would be considered very ugly and they were extremely confident and happy. It doesn't matter what we ARE. All that matters is what we THINK we are, and we will inevitably become that as a result. I think that people outside of yourself, and the world as a whole has in one way or another told you that you are ugly or are not enough in some way, and your simply accepting that verdict. But in reality, do those people know you as well as you know yourself? Is society basing its propositions on every thought you've ever thought? NO. But you ARE yourself and you see yourself as a free and beautiful bird. I think once you find a way to stop caring what people think, you will very naturally fall into the person that you wish you were. Now, I am basing all of this off of this one posting of yours and your user name and I have the tendency to ramble so I apologize if this doesnt apply to you haha. I think, in part I was also giving advice to myself, being that I often times feel the same way. Anyway, hope things improve for you
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Old 03-25-14, 10:54 AM   #3
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Redrow you have no idea how perfectly perfect it is to wake up to this message. I'm still in bed, dreading starting my day and now I have the courage to do so. Your post os so poetic and beautiful but I think it must be true... I just wish others would see me as something beautiful and good... but maybe like you said I need to forget about all of that for a while.

Thx so much for the support, this really helped me

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Old 03-26-14, 07:14 PM   #4
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Amen to this. :)
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