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Old 01-25-21, 03:42 PM   #1
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Yeah. In my country we are on "hard lockdown", meaning schools, day cares and all shops except for supermarkets and pharmacies are closed. There is no place to take my kids (2,3) and if I leave them inside too long they seriously start to take the whole flat apart. Outside there is wind, snow and slush.

Are there any other moms (or dads) of young children here who want to commiserate??
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Old 01-30-21, 08:44 PM   #2
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Iím not a parent, but over Christmas I had extended family stay at my house, including two much younger cousins. They had to come down early and leave late because their state had a COVID outbreak, so our house was rather full. Each day we had about 6 people here, whereas thereís normally just two.

So I have some idea about what a full house is like during COVID, but I can only image what itís like being a parent at home with such young children! Not to mention we donít get snow, itís sunny down here this time of year and getting people outdoors was always a way to make more space in the house. But of course with children as young as two and three Iíd image theyíre not yet at the age where you can just let them out the back to play unsupervised, even if there wasnít snow. How do you manage the situation with the weather you have?

Do you have any coping strategies in place to help you deal with the additional stress that I imagine youíd be under?
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You need to find fun ways to entertain your little ones at home, look for indoor activities for kids.
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Hey, thanks so much for these replies. And sympathetic ones at that :) I guess the other moms and dads are too busy parenting to check in on TTL.
Yeah, indoor activities ... my kids are quite receptive, but certain things trigger me. I'm working on that. It's kind of a let down to realize the TV-commercial like mommy-child dreams you had in your head as a young adult will not come true. Real kids just don't do it.
They're not bad kids at all, but I've never had any contact with young children before becoming a mother myself and the things they know/don't know and the way they reason/don't reason at this age can sometimes drive me damn near the edge.
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Yeah, I never had kids myself but I sort of remember how I was like when I was younger. Perhaps not that young. I remember my motivations for how I rationalized a lot of things was very egocentric... A word I didn't even learn until high school.
It's good that they have you to help them sort these things out. I imagine at that age you have to be very firm in your feedback of them because they have to act more based on your energy and feedback than their own ability to figure things out?
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Yep, that's right. It's scary when at about age 3 they pull out "the mirror" and you get all the words and phrases you use, your facial expressions, your tone of voice, thrown back at you and realize what you look and sound like to the kids. Yeah. Hardest thing I've ever done. Thanks for listening and sympathizing. My country's locking down again next week, how about yours?
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I imagine that's where a lot of the conflict arises; we don't really remember what it's like to have a child's perspective, and children have no understanding of what it's like to have the perspective of an adult. That and the fact their minds are still developing.

I doubt you're exactly looking forward to locking down again, but do you think you'll be better prepared this time around given that you have some experience with the previous lockdown(s)?
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Thanks for replying. I think it'll be okay; at any rate I have more resources to stabilize myself than I had the last two times around. Good evening :)
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