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Old 03-25-14, 08:41 AM   #1
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Default i would like to go to the gym but i feel like i need a friend to go with

and i don't see that i have one so i have had this membership for months and haven't gone... it's just taking money from my account every month and i still havent gone..

I want to get in shape but not on my own... it is too hard to keep the motivation going on my own... that is the truth.
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Old 03-25-14, 09:32 AM   #2
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I know how you feel, I workout alone and it can be a little bit odd. I just keep going and I have met a few people there and we work out together sometimes. Doing things with others is always better. Just try to make friends at the gym that is working for me
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Old 02-23-15, 07:33 PM   #3
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i can't believe I wrote this last year and I'm still in the same boat.
A year went by and it was like nothing.
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Old 02-24-15, 09:41 AM   #4
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Sonik~You ever consider getting a trainer at the gym? Year's ago (many) I decided to join one. It took me months to finally get up the courage to go to one. I have to be honest, I was intimated by other people that were in (really) good shape. I felt like the round peg in a square hole. However, when I finally got up the courage to go, I asked/inquired as to IF I could get someone to help with "training" me, so that I would become more motivated to go it alone. I too, had no one to go/accompany me. In the long run, the trainer I did get, was extremely nice, polite, & built a workout designed for myself. It truly made all the difference with my "drive" of not wanting to go. Just something for you to consider. Why keep paying for a membership? You can call & inquire about it, before you go in. I'm sure, with no doubt, they'll have someone more than willing to help you out, motivate you, & then you'll want to utilize it more.
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Old 02-24-15, 01:48 PM   #5
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My mother feels very similar to you. She needs to have someone to go to the gym with her, otherwise she doesn't feel motivated. The answer for her was to participate in group fitness classes, and she absolutely loves it! I'm not sure if that's an option for you at your gym, but I thought it was worth mentioning.
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Old 04-01-15, 10:42 PM   #6
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I went to the gym for 2 years. It was not my cup of tea. I got the membership for me and my son, then my husband joined us. and we would go all the time. But after two years, I actually gained weight.( and freaking ringworm on my face! In the first week. I was super careful about cleaning machines before I used them..but I still got it.)
From reading the little machine displays. and trying to get enough of this and that nutrient. Anyways, it wasn't the best thing for me.
I do love fitness DVDs though :) those things are inspirational, it's like having a one on one trainer. But I like being alone, so that's good for me :)
If you have access...maybe walk a dog? If you don't want to exercise alone, the dog is next best thing to a human exercise buddy. if you don't have a dog, maybe a friend or family member does..or animal rescue..you could volunteer as a dog walker..if it's feasible of course. I actually used to pretend I was chasing a dog when i had to run in PE as a kid. All about the ways to motivate :) Now i am healing from surgery( still) getting my muscle back slowly. I used to do yoga with my cat every night. we both enjoyed the lady talking, the cat always jumped on me during poses, and it was a relaxing time for us. I only can do a little now. And last time I tried to walk the dogs, they dragged me and I actually fell!
so yeah, if you aren't going to the gym cause of the alone factor, try some stuff at home to motivate you fitness wise, then maybe you will feel more comfortable when you get there.
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oh yeah, here's something kinda funny but I wish I had thought of it myself.
Mindy Kaling. she says the way she motivates herself to exercise is :She pretends she's married and that her husband is a spy, and he's been abducted and being held. And she's getting in shape to go on a mission to rescue him!
I love it!
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maybe try fitness classes, and make friends with ppl there and then from there go to gym together?
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I absolutely understand how you feel.

I joined the most expensive and nicest gym in my city, just so that a thought of paying so much and actually enjoying the amenities can push me to go there more often.

In the beginning it was a bit easier, since my friend, who gave me an idea about this gym, joined me few times for yoga, while she was pregnant. I couldn't not go if I knew she was waiting for me there.

Then I tried a PT - was a waste of money. But it really depends on PT, some are good, I assume. And yet it is still too expensive.

Then I gave up and went like once a month.

And still I have to push myself EVERY SINGLE time to go inside of the gym, and then to actually leave the locker room and go exercise.

Two times I went there, parked the car, walked out, turned around, sat back in the car and drove back home.... it was freaking pathetic, I was embarrassed and ashamed.

There are few things that help.
1) group classes. If you go to the same classes regularly, you often see the same people there. Even if you don't talk to them or get acquainted, just seeing same people doing same thing with you, gives you a feeling like you are all connected there.
And the class teachers recognize you after few times.

2) find something there that you really like. May be weight lifting, or a favorite machine, or a favorite bike, or stretching....I like steam room, even though I just go there for a few minutes, it gives me great feeling. So often I motivate myself, that I'd go exercize and then I can go to my fav steam room.

3) going there in those hours where it's the least people. At night normally. I go at night and there almost all by myself, no need to worry if someone is checking me out or judging my physique, just me with myself in the mirrors.

I hope that helps.
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