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Old 07-14-15, 05:20 PM   #1
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I haven't posted on this site in a while..but I feel that things are slipping again.

A few years ago, when I finished school and throughout university, I had an issue with food. I lost a lot of weight and was depressed. I've been living back at home for a year (my final year at university) and i've put the weight back on. I just want to cut all the fat off, I hate it. My brother's graduation is in a few days and none of my clothes fit anymore...I'm going on holiday in a month and I can't fit in my bikini.

I just want to lose it all again, but nothing seems to be working. I HATE what I look like. I rarely leave the house now because of how I look. I'm anxious about even stepping outside, because I feel like everyone is looking at me.

I hate who I am.
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Old 07-14-15, 07:40 PM   #2
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Don't hate yourself! The way you view yourself sets the standard for how others treat you. If you don't feel comfortable with your body others will notice. Love yourself and embrace your imperfections because those things are what make you who you are
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Old 07-15-15, 03:05 AM   #3
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I am dealing with the same issue. Just make a decision that you will lose this fat! It won't happen in a day or in a few days, you probably won't lose it by the graduation time, but just keep working towards it, little by little, don't rush yourself.

If you fail 100 times, 100 times you get back up!

I keep trying almost every day. Today I failed...I'll try tomorrow again, and I will make it happen. Everybody will see me losing 20 lbs, I did it once, I'll do it again...and you can do it too!

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Oh, man, I know how difficult it is. I know cutting down on food is difficult. Have you tried to work out. And walk. A lot. Not only it burns calories, but it keeps you away from food too. Because, if you sit home with nothing to do, chances are you‘ll start eating, even if you‘re not hungry, one reason or another. I‘ve lost a lot of weight just by walking. Set the goal, and don‘t give up. Good luck
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Sorry to hear you're feeling down about yourself Jersey18! :(

I'm going through something similar - lost a lot of weight - and put a lot back on recently. Shacke is right - try to avoid putting yourself in a position where your mind can wander towards eating.

It's in our nature to sometimes be overly critical of yourself. I'm sure you're prettier than you make it seem in your post.

Make you a deal - you eat right this week and so will I k? Deal! :D

I'll be checking up on you here!
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Old 07-20-15, 07:04 AM   #6
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Hi Jersey18,

going through the same. I think I'm an emotional eater too. I just joined a diet site called myfitnesspal.com. You can track your calories. I've been dealing with a lot of "fat shaming" at work since I returned. I much hate the body I'm in too.

What you can do currently for yourself. Is first make sure you have some clothes that fit well and make yourself comfortable. I recently bought size 33 jeans, I don't feel good about that number but I want to be comfortable.

I also had to buy a size 16 one piece to go to the pool again. Horrified at what I saw in the mirror and I bought a cover up too. But I need to get exercising and I like to swim. I went to the pool twice.

Try to exercise too. Even if it's walking. I haven't been to good at this either right now but I know it's something I need to do. I also go to myfitnesspal.com and record my calorie intake too. I'm not extreme dieting right now, just watching my calorie intake. It's good to see what I'm eating. If you have anything stressing you out right now other than your weight. Try to deal with that too and get it out of the way. As an extra motivation for myself it's just not healthy to be overweight, I'm worried about diabetes and stuff. So for me it's a health issue too.

Totally get what your saying though. I'm just trying to get this under control right now.

Hope this helps.
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Old 07-23-15, 09:08 AM   #7
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thanks everyone - i'm trying to eat well, i'm tracking my calories and i'm not even buying any bad food. i'm sorry you're all in similar situations, it sucks.

my anxiety is getting worse, and i just don't seem to have anyone to talk to about it. i don't have many friends, and my family just seem to say "just don't get worked up" or "cheer up". I know i need to take the time to explain how i'm feeling, but i just can't and i feel so stupid. they didn't even notice a few years ago that i had problems with food - i lost a lot of weight, practically stopped eating for two whole years, and they didn't notice a thing.

i don't feel like i can open up to them because they didn't see anything - why would they believe me.
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yeah, I had a friend not eating much too. She was good at hiding it. I found out a year later. Like I said she was good at hiding it. Some people don't clue in. So don't be too hard on your family for not seeing that. Do you think maybe counselling or something might be good for you? Do you think talking to your family about your eating habits might help you too??? Is there someone you feel close to that you can talk with??? Maybe a sister/brother or cousin. That might help too. Just some ideas. Must be someone there that will understand you.
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yeah, I had a friend not eating much too. She was good at hiding it. I found out a year later. Like I said she was good at hiding it. Some people don't clue in. So don't be too hard on your family for not seeing that. Do you think maybe counselling or something might be good for you? Do you think talking to your family about your eating habits might help you too??? Is there someone you feel close to that you can talk with??? Maybe a sister/brother or cousin. That might help too. Just some ideas. Must be someone there that will understand you.
no not really, I tried talking to someone about it 3 years ago and it didn't work. I don't think she believed me, and then i got defensive because i felt stupid and embarrassed. ever since then I've shut down, and to be honest, I don't really have many friends so i'd rather not ruin any of my friendships. i think thats why i'm on here...
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I HATE what I look like. I rarely leave the house now because of how I look. I'm anxious about even stepping outside, because I feel like everyone is looking at me.

I hate who I am.
I feel the exact same way! Itīs been about 2 months since I last went out of my house because I canīt stand the way I look. I really donīt know what advice to give you. In the past buying clothes I felt comfortable with has helped me leave the house. All I can really say is that youīre not alone in this.
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