Wait until they're all 35.
Don't worry. It all evens out in the end.
15 or 20 years from now, you might be the *hot* one in the group.
Skinny, pretty teenagers don't usually stay pretty and skinny.
And some of the most gorgeous women in the world were overweight and/or unattractive in high school.
Beyond that, though, you can't base your value as a human being on the way you look. It just doesn't work that way. I know the importance of looks is so paramount in high school, but after high school, it really ceases to matter very much at all. You'll see. Just hang in there.
You'll be okay. You'll find your niche. And you'll find a man who wants you for yourself. There are awesome men out there, although admittedly they don't generally populate the halls and cafeterias of high schools. You'll meet your man in college, or at work, or through mutual friends in your early 20s. Trust me on this, okay?
Most men do not like skinny women. That's not what they prefer.
I'm not saying they're crazy about fat ones, either, but most men I know are seriously more attracted to a slightly overweight woman with curves than a skinny woman.
And good men don't really give a crap what a woman's body looks like, as long as it's not deformed or something. They want a woman who shares mutual interests, a woman who challenges them intellectually.
Your writing, despite the dismal subject matter, is often witty and wry. I know you're sharp as a tack. Your personality shines through. And you are going to meet a man who finds that- your sharpness, your cleverness- totally compelling. He'll find it more important than anything else.
Believe it or not, men have the same insecurities about their looks that we do. They just don't talk about it as much. Not all men think they're worthy of going out with the prom queen or the head cheerleader. A surprising number of them don't even want to. They're realists. They want somebody to love, just like we do. They want somebody they can bond with, someone who can share their passions and interests. Someone real, someone with quirks, someone they can relate to. They're not looking for perfection. They're not perfect. Looks aren't the important thing, once you get a little older. Just believe me.
If your friends make you feel like crap, stop hanging out with them. Hang out alone, until you find some friends who are more compatible. Develop a hobby, some outside interests, things that get you outside your closed little social group and meeting some new, more open-minded people. If your family tells you you're fat, tell them to get bent. What kind of way is that to talk to somebody? They obviously don't have your best interests at heart when they say such things.
You are a special person. It's the world around you that's screwed up, not you.
But it's a very small, enclosed little world right now, and you'll be happier once you broaden your horizons, get a little age and experience on you, and realize that the real world is huge, and it has room for all kinds of people... and that somebody with your cutting intelligence and brutal honesty will be valued there.
Last edited by GLP; 03-08-09 at 09:49 PM.