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Old 02-15-10, 08:02 PM   #1
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I am 5 foot 9 inches tall. Seventeen year old girl.

I used to weigh a lot lot more than I do now. My therapist tells me I have an eating disorder. I was never overweight, just at the very very end of the normal weight scale. I have since lost a lot lot of weight and I now weigh between 128 and 130 but I'm still not happy. I keep telling myself I'm going to stop when I'm thin or happy with how I look, but that never happens and I keep having to lose weight. I feel disgusted when I go over my small amount of calories for the day.

How much do you think is a normal weight for somebody my age and height?
I want to keep losing and losing. I know I'll never be satisfied now. But I can't stop. I'm so sick of looking this disgusting. I'm a fucking gross mess.
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According to 'ideal weight' charts you should be about 145 lbs. You shouldn't be getting lower than the 125-130 you are talking about.

But a lot depends on your build, are you muscular? Muscle obviously weighs more than fat (think about rugby players) And women need more fat on them than men do.

Thing is though it seems your attitude to food seems more of a problem, the fact that you feel 'disgusted' over a few extra calories and that you worry about being a normal weight - wanting to lose more and more.

You may need to get help with your feelings about food. No amount of weight loss is going to make you *happy*.

Are you healthy otherwise? Hair and teeth condition fine?
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Old 02-16-10, 11:37 AM   #3
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130 is healthy enough for a girl of your height, and alpiniste is right it depends on fat muscle ratio, checking your BMI will say if you are within a healthy range or not, borrow someones BMI scales or check out how to work it out on the website, i think the BMI for girls should be about 30. But at that weight you don`t have much to worry about.
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According to 'ideal weight' charts you should be about 145 lbs. You shouldn't be getting lower than the 125-130 you are talking about.

But a lot depends on your build, are you muscular? Muscle obviously weighs more than fat (think about rugby players) And women need more fat on them than men do.

Thing is though it seems your attitude to food seems more of a problem, the fact that you feel 'disgusted' over a few extra calories and that you worry about being a normal weight - wanting to lose more and more.

You may need to get help with your feelings about food. No amount of weight loss is going to make you *happy*.

Are you healthy otherwise? Hair and teeth condition fine?
I haven't gotten my period in a few months, and my hair is falling out a tiny bit but not like in clumps or anything.
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I haven't gotten my period in a few months, and my hair is falling out a tiny bit but not like in clumps or anything.
OK. In that case you do have problems - but I emphasize that nutritional problems can happen at any weight. If your periods have stopped your diet is poor and your weight/fat ratio could most likely be a problem. Women can be quite low in weight but still have periods if their fat is right. It suggests that you do not have enough fat. Also your hair should not be falling out at all! Your body can stop periods if your nutrition is poor.

You need foods that contain iron and other things that you sound like you need, like an increase in natural dietary estrogens (that may help with your periods, especially soy and Tofu - but avoid soy milk) - Menopause, Estrogen, Food and Estrogen, Foods Containing Natural Estrogens, Estrogen Inhibiting Foods, PMS, hormones, hormone replacement therapy, HRT (NOTE - that website is NOT just for menopause, just that those things are relevant to that also). I'm also guessing your diet is low in calcium (best to get most of your calcium from non diary sources! - see this link - Alternative Calcium Sources: Obtaining Calcium From Non Dairy Foods , and minerals generally.

You should think about improving your diet. From your post it is obvious your are worried about weight gain. But a great diet to follow that won't put on weight but will vastly improve your nutrition is the macrobiotic diet.
Macrobiotic Dietary Guidelines - What is the Macrobiotic Diet
Macrobiotic Recipes

You should focus less on your actual weight and more on the composition of your diet and gaining the right 'fat'. Struts advice about checking out your BMI is a good idea. You should also check with your doctor if you are worried about anything.

What kind of diet do you currently eat? What are your typical day's meals? What are your favourite foods?

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OK. In that case you do have problems - but I emphasize that nutritional problems can happen at any weight. If your periods have stopped your diet is poor and your weight/fat ratio could most likely be a problem. Women can be quite low in weight but still have periods if their fat is right. It suggests that you do not have enough fat. Also your hair should not be falling out at all! Your body can stop periods if your nutrition is poor.

You need foods that contain iron and other things that you sound like you need, like an increase in natural dietary estrogens (that may help with your periods, especially soy and Tofu - but avoid soy milk) - Menopause, Estrogen, Food and Estrogen, Foods Containing Natural Estrogens, Estrogen Inhibiting Foods, PMS, hormones, hormone replacement therapy, HRT (NOTE - that website is NOT just for menopause, just that those things are relevant to that also). I'm also guessing your diet is low in calcium (best to get most of your calcium from non diary sources! - see this link - Alternative Calcium Sources: Obtaining Calcium From Non Dairy Foods , and minerals generally.

You should think about improving your diet. From your post it is obvious your are worried about weight gain. But a great diet to follow that won't put on weight but will vastly improve your nutrition is the macrobiotic diet.
Macrobiotic Dietary Guidelines - What is the Macrobiotic Diet
Macrobiotic Recipes

You should focus less on your actual weight and more on the composition of your diet and gaining the right 'fat'. Struts advice about checking out your BMI is a good idea. You should also check with your doctor if you are worried about anything.

What kind of diet do you currently eat? What are your typical day's meals? What are your favourite foods?
I usually eat between 600 and 800 or 900 calories a day. Usually towards 900 now, but on the very lowest 600.
I have weight control oatmeal for lunch every day because it has 160 calories and it keeps me full. I always have chicken or some type of meat for dinner or a "Smart Ones" microwave dinner that ranges from 200-300 calories. For breakfast I have eggbeaters or diet toast or grits. Something along those lines.

My therapist told me also about Atkins bars which I occasionally have, since they are high in protein and I complained of always being tired.
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Also, thank you very much for replying to me.
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I usually eat between 600 and 800 or 900 calories a day. Usually towards 900 now, but on the very lowest 600.
I have weight control oatmeal for lunch every day because it has 160 calories and it keeps me full. I always have chicken or some type of meat for dinner or a "Smart Ones" microwave dinner that ranges from 200-300 calories. For breakfast I have eggbeaters or diet toast or grits. Something along those lines.
My therapist told me also about Atkins bars which I occasionally have, since they are high in protein and I complained of always being tired.
That is way too low. You should be aiming for around 1800 - 2000 per day for your height/sex depending on what exercise you take etc. Going below a 1000 calories a day deprives your brain of essentail energy and long term causes brain damage and also heart damage. It takes a minimum of 600 calories a day just to keep your brain working!

Also, you are obviously not getting ANY proper nutrition. It's no wonder your health is as poor as it is.

Although you need protein eating protein bars is not the answer and a diet high in protein but lacking in essential nutrition is associated with heart damage, heart attacks and strokes.

It is possible for you to keep the weight you are (if that is what you want) and up your calories intake and up your nutrition. For example why don't you eat lots of fruit and veg? You can't say those would pile on the pounds!!!!

Avoid ready meals - they are full of hidden calories in sugar and fat anyway. Why don't you cook yourself a chicken stir fry - actually low in calories but would do your health a lot of good. Maybe plan to start with replacing three ready meals a week with a chicken stir fry. Also Fish, fish is VERY low in fat and calories (and any fat in them is Good fat) so you wouldn't be piling on the calories by eating some fresh grilled fish a few times a week, or even a tin of sardines on toast (you can even get those tinned in spring water not oil)

Obviously you should be eating more calories or you ARE going to get VERY ILL. But until you are ready to eat more calories why not at least replace the calories you are having with nutritious food that is actually worth eating!

Why don't you replace diet toast with ordinary bread? The so called diet bread isn't any more likely to make you lose weight, in fact it's usually full of additives and sugars - so makes you gain weight!

Just a few suggestions.
  • Breakfast, replace diet bread with ordinary wholemeal bread. Tinned sardines or grilled tomatoes on the toast. Fruit juice or a fruit smoothie drink. OR Real oats porridge topped with fresh or tinned fruit.
  • Lunch, Lentil based soup with vegetable in it. Grilled fish with salad.
  • Dinner, Chicken stir fry with noodles or rice (add soy sauce to the stir fry). Pasta with vegetables and a tomato based herb sauce.
Also, to eat throughout the day - carrot sticks, apples and pears, a few grapes, sunflower seeds or other seeds.

You can see from those suggestions that you would still be eating what is a low calorie diet (if that is what you want) but at the same time you would be increasing your health and energy levels. You could easily alter your current diet to some or all of these ideas without having to make big changes.

At the very least you wouldn't feel tired all the time!
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Alpineste is doing a good job here, with the nutrition advice.

The only thing I would add is to try to also try buying a multivitamin of some kind, it can cover some holes you miss, though it will not replace a meal. Your body (any adolescent body) needs way more than 900 calories, try 1800 calories.

Health. Try focusing on health instead of weight. You'll feel better, and look better.
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Old 02-25-10, 02:32 PM   #10
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I wish I could get to my ideal weight but I'm a fatty. I agree with everyone else that you should work on getting your weight to increase a bit though. It is an eating disorder. There's a word for what your going through about seeing yourself as bigger than you are. I think it's body dismorphia or something like that? I know that I have gone overboard but curves are good.
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