Don't feel stupid for being scared , its a natural feeling to wake up with hair on end after a nightmare- . I know I have! .
Sometimes nightmares can be VERY SCARY and they are that way for a reason, I read that nightmares are something that you are not paying attention to and if you keep not paying attention to - you will have the NIGHTMARE, the dream will come back until you face what ever is your not facing, or fear. If you are depressed these do sound like the classic depression dreams.
where someone is trying to kill a part of you. Part of you that makes you happy- The eyes out part sounds like you aren't seeing something. Could be family related since you had a dream about your mother. They say you should ask your dream self about the dream you are having - and face them but I know it is hard facing nightmares! -
Oh and I agree about the light or a tv or a radio- that could help you fall asleep- I did that for awhile when I had the witches nightmare. I had my tv on almost all night- Seemed to help a lot. I am an avid dreamer so been researching dreams a lot.
write mine down even . so that may help too. Hope this helped somewhat- !!. sweet dreams.