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Old 04-02-16, 04:46 AM   #1
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I feel so lonely at the moment...everything is going wrong and the worst think is I have no one to talk too! I miss the way things used to be why did they have to change. I hate being here I feel so unhappy, so upset!

I wish things would change :( :(
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Old 04-02-16, 05:09 AM   #2
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What's wrong?
What makes you feel unhappy?

I'm willing to listen.. I hope I can help.
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Old 04-02-16, 05:22 PM   #3
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Hey sugar bombs,

Thanks for your reply. I'm just unhappy with the way things are at the moment. My friend is unhappy because he boyfriend passed away. I'm not to keen on my job I dread going in and i have a partner that I feel sometimes puts other people/things before me. So it makes me unhappy :/ feel like not being here no more.
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Old 04-06-16, 11:46 AM   #4
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Hey rakelloo,

I know how sad you are right now.. Sometimes, things are happening for a lot of reasons.
Last 2 years (I think), my fiancee's mom passed away. It was really hard for him. He treated his mom like a piece of shit but when she passed away, he realized how wrong he was. I didn't know how to comfort him too. It made me so unhappy. It affected me in every way it affected him. And when he cried, I cried too. When he talked about his mom, I just listened. I assured him that she's in a better world than where we are now. I told him things like she doesn't have to take care of you anymore, she doesn't have any problems, she's already free of all the burdens and that she's probably looking after him now. It would take months or years to grief on a special someone but that's okay. That just shows how much you love that person.
Regarding your job, I was in that situation too. I didn't like my job before. It made me so depressed but I know that I have to work. To be able to pay rent, to feed myself and my family, to pay all of our bills. I think about those things during work. It really sucks. I'm like a monkey in the office. Every pay day, I made sure that I reward myself. Like buying something (within a tight budget) or eating something special. Anything that would make me less sad. But, the day came when I don't really want to work there anymore. I didn't want to go to work. I went awol. Took a lot of courage and a lot if thinking. I decided to take the risk and go freelancing. It was very depressing and I'm always stressed out. All of our savings were dwindling. It took me half a year to get regular clients. I thought about suicide and all that but I thought if others can, I'll be able to make this work too. I just learned how to be patient.
With your partner, I'm not sure. Did you already talk to him/her about that? How much time do you spend with each other? My fiancee have a lot of issues with me too. And we might end up not getting married if things doesn't go well. But you know what, no matter how depressing or stressful that thinking is.. eventhough the marriage will be off, I'm making sure that I'm the best that he'll ever get. I'm making sure that he will never ever find another girl who can take care of him as much as I do. I make sure that it will be his lost, not mine. That's just how I think. I do my part in the relationship and if he's not doing his part, oh well.. Maybe you can try doing something like that. Just do your part to keep the relationship, and if it's getting stale, let her know and he/she will regret losing you and prolly put in more efforts to your relationship.

I just want to ask, what are the things that can make you happy? Is there anything that's making you less sad.. like a pet dog or cat or chocolates :) or a video game. Another thing that I do when I feel like crap, I make a list of things that make me less sad or things that I'm grateful of.
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Old 04-10-16, 07:37 AM   #5
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Hey sugar bombs,

Thanks for your reply its nice to know I'm not alone. I'm sorry your going through all that, you remind me of me. I guess I'll just have to plod along and see how I go.

I just find things so up setting at the moment. I'm only young and i dont wanna be here. I hate the way I feel, I just feel like bursting into tears. It's like no one cares at all? Sometimes ill sit in my room and wonder where I went wrong and what I did/said that was wrong.

I try so hard, i admit I'm not a perfect person but I care a lot and I do try very hard with things even if they make me sad. I never want to give up. I don't know how to fix things?

I never thought my job could make me feel unhappy, its my boss I just find his methods of things to much all the time. I think he has a bad temper. As for my boyfriend I could never understand what I did so wrong. He says he loves me, but the question is does he really? He never shows me... he can't even hold my hand?
I haven't left him coz i love him.

As for the things that make me happy. I guess not my things do, i have no friends. I don't really shop alot, trying to save up money. I don't really play a lot of video games anymore. I wish I had someone to talk to. Really you'd think my bf could talk and see if I'm ok?

I wait your reply.. Thanks
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I was just gonna lurk but when I saw this post, I signed in.

You're a great person rak. You're grateful for every little thing you get. That's an attractive quality in a friend.

I've been there, I was depressed and psychotic for 10 years. I got out. You have the right attitude so I can see you getting out of this rut too.
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Old 04-10-16, 01:33 PM   #7
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Hey Sensual Girl,

Thanks for the reply.... I dont really think im a great person, if i was maybe things woudnt be this bad. I wish i could switch places with my friends boyfriend, I'd be better off. They were going to get married and buy there own house.

Thats my dream in a nut shell. Thing is the man im with doesnt seem to care? why what did i do that was so wrong... Ive been asking myself for a long time. I'm stuck in a job were the people just hate me... I dont even want to go to work tomorrow. I have no one to talk to not even family. I have wanted to go for a long time, im sick of being unhappy. it just seems to get worse! whats the point. I rather go, i wouldnt have to be unhappy anymore. wouldnt have to go to work and spend time alone. I wouldnt have to cry anymore or be a burden. I be so better off.

I'll never get my own place or get married. Whos gunna marry me, even i wouldnt marry me. everyone else around me is getting married and then you just get me? I know every one struggles with life and has a hard time and i really do admire them. There just one difference they all have at least one friend. I have no one. Its been that way for a long time.

I have my partner but for some reason i cant manage to please him either no matter what i do or say. or how many surprises i do. How much i try my best, it doesnt matter because it always feels like its not enough.

Maybe its me? Like I said im not the prettist girl on the planet, sometimes i stress alot. but i do care alot you'd think that would count for something?

I'd do anything for things to change.... Were is the man i dreamt of? is he ever coming. Maybe im ment to be alone forever! I thought my bf loved me, he rarely shows it, i know men can be like that (not saying all men!) but i just dont understand.

Have you ever just wanted answer so that you could understand why? ....

I guess I will have to do my best with what I have and carry on. No matter how much it hurts or how I want to cry. Just got to try and muddle though....

I appreciate your replies it means im not totally alone. so thanks
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Old 04-16-16, 04:58 PM   #8
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I had enough.. things just get worse. Wish I could disappear.. :( :(
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Old 04-16-16, 07:50 PM   #9
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Hi there
You know, sometimes we have to burn and hit bottom to be reborn. It happens a lot in relationships, when you're just wondering if they love you as much as you do and at the same time you're just losing yourself. Happened to me, I was trapped in a relationship for a long time, I didn't want to let go until it got worse and worse, and there I was, all alone, crying on the sidewalk outside his house... It was very difficult for me but eventually (almost 2 years after that) I felt free and found myself being ME again. Right now? He's married and I'm not... You know what? Who cares!
Getting married is not a great goal to stick to when we're barely conscious of who we are and where we want to be.
So, I know it seems pointless now (even for me from time to time), but let's not forget that what's important in life is inside of each of us.
I hope you feel better soon and find some peace.
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