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Old 08-28-11, 03:24 AM   #21
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Old 09-13-11, 09:58 AM   #22
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Thank you Mitch!

Well, my daughter got "dismissed again," by this "friend!" I told her, to grow a backbone and let her know how you're feeling! (this was yesterday) This girl is SO arrogant! I mean, my daughter's been her friend forever and this friend, just told her how things are! I told my daughter, to stick up for herself! This friend, has done, nothing but lie, decieve, and hurt her, since she's known her! I explained, that she feels, since all the monies she recieved, that people need to "bow" to her. I explained, that she drove 10 hours to see a "friend," that she hasn't had contact in 3-4 years with, I said, that alone should tell you thing something. Then, she tries to act,(this friend) like all these people, she hangs out with, have been friends longer than my daughter has been. It's far from the truth! These other friends, the girl hangs around, have only been in her life, since the earlier part of this year!

I'm fed up, with my daughter being treated as though, she's only good enough, for this person, when IT'S convenient for her to hang around her! I told her, true/real friends, don't just "fit you in" when it's convenient for them! I said, while I can understand, this person, just helped you out, when you're done, returning the kindness, dismiss her, her games, the lies, and the nonsense of this whole relationship! DO YOU THINK, IN YOUR OPINION, I'M MISTAKEN?
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Old 09-16-11, 01:42 AM   #23
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I've now been sick, for over a week. Do you think my daughter would even care? No! What a shocker, right? I have my dog, that I still need to take care of and then she throws her dog onto me as well! Look, I told her, work, yes will watch her, going to have fun, you need to take care of her! Then, she gets home and starts asking me, how long as she been out? Did you take her out? Have you even fed her? I mean, I'm like you're kidden me...right?! I told her, you wanted this animal, now start taking care of her and passing the buck to me. I don't feel well, can't get into the docs office, and I'm supposed to be worried about your pet?! She wont even take my lab out for me! I mean really. Then, to top it off, she had gone by somebody that has owned her money for 2 years now and had inherited money, yet never bothered to pay her back! (No, not the same girl, another one, in her 20's), I mean the kid is foolish with her thinking! I asked her, when she got back, did she give you what she owed? She's said no, but admitted she knew she owned my daughter. I guess that makes it all better...admitting to it?!? Some days, I wonder why my child has even got a brain, cause she sure doesn't use it. This is the 2nd girl this week, that admitted they owed her, yet still hasn't paid her! I'm tired of it..really!
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Old 09-20-11, 01:45 PM   #24
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Reflecting. Today, I get a text that just still bothers me. This guy, I use to know, now wants to try to have a "conversation" about things with me. Frankly, this guy's nothing but trouble! This guy lead me on, for awhile, then abruptly didn't call, text, or anything. I found out, when he finally did, that he had a new roomie. No biggy I thought, he wanted one, to help with bills and etc. Well, the roomie was a female. I took it for just being roomies, till I found out, he was having intimate relations with this roomie. Shortly after I found out, he decided to text me and inform me. Well, to be honest, he said he loved me and all that stuff. I could tell, cause within a short amount of time, he slept with another female. He hurt me deeply. I decided to attempt to be friends with him, but she was too insecure with herself, and told him, he couldn't. He went behind her back and did meet me. Nothing happened, kind of made me sick to my stomach to see him; recalling all the words he fed me. I have NO idea how he got this new number? I replied nicely back, saying something along the lines, that he needs to work on his relationship with her and we can be friends; limited though. Apprently, he didn't care for my reply and got short with me. I'll talk later or something like that. This guy, but me on a serious rollercoaster ride; emotionally. I haven't healed from all of it; even after over a year. He told me all this stuff, about things he didn't like about her and etc... He was happy that she didn't want his money?! I never wanted money, I cared for him. He never told me he did. His daughter-he had given her my number-called me and drilled me. I didn't like it. I told her the truth, sticking to being me; whether or not she liked it or not; didn't care. Long story short. He's still with her, after ALL the complaining he did and just expects me act like nothing's happened. Sorry it did. He blames things on his PSTD, which I understand he has; but uses a crutch way TOO much with people he meets. First thing, when I met him, he told me. I thought that was odd, but ok, I didn't judge him. I don't trust him, any more. I don't care for him, that way, any more. I want him to leave me alone; like I've done to him. I tried, like I said, to be friends with him, when she came into his life. He kicked me to the curb as long as he was getting sex. He had ED problem and got meds for it. Shortly after that, he was singing a new tune! So regardless of all of this...why is he NOW calling/contact me? Hey, I gave you the white flag of friendship and you tore it up; in my face. You made excuses. NOW you want to talk? I don't think, since she's still in his life, it's going to happen. He's up to something; very sneaky person he is, and I don't trust him any more. I don't need to have this guy in my life. He plays too many games, always about him, and he isn't always as honest as he claims he is. I don't know what he's up to, but my stomach is aching-so that alone tells me, whatever it is; not good. I just want to move on from all of this and I need him to leave me alone. He got all that he wanted and more; and he threw me to the curb for sex?! You don't truly love somebody; when you just want to make yourself happy....
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Well, to continue from the last posting. I got a new text stating that she's there to help him with meals, cleaning, so he can do his own things, that he needs to catch up with. You know, after getting that text..it sad way too much to me! First of all, you don't want a REAL relationship, you want a maid with benifits! How can you do that? Do that to a person I know loves you and cares deeply for you!(?) I guess, he thinks he's all that now, since he's got her and she's his personal "toy" to have around! I mean, really! What kind of person would I have been? I would have just been their for you, to help you, clean, cook, and be a roomie with benifits; along with paying rent/bills?!?! I guess, that no matter how old this guy gets, he'll always see woman as his "toys" to do with, whatever HE needs done! I've truly never met a man like this! His PTSD(said it wrong)is an excuse to me! Maybe he really DOES have it? IF he does, then making people, especially woman, do his work for him and provided "services" that HE needs, is NOT what I would want! To me, relationships are give and take. Sometimes you need more, so you take more. Some times, you give more, because you're able to. Being a selfish and self-serving person, that's ONLY worried about HIS needs, is NOT something or somebody that I would want in my own personal life. While he does have a giving side, it comes with him being sneeky and deceiving. Like I said previously. I would think that a man, in his mid 50's, would have outgrown those kinds of childish games. He just amazes me, that she's still with him. I know, from him, that she has major insecurity issues, which I'm sure she does. I truly feel for her. IF he's sneeking around, when he use to see me and he was with her, then I'm sure he's continuing that behavior. Why? Because he feels, for some reason, that HE has some kind of "right" to treat women that way. I hope, sincerely, that she wakes up and sees what's going on. IF I'm wrong, then I'll be the first to admit it. I have NO problem admitting when I'm either wrong or mistake. TOO bad, he doesn't follow the same rules that he lives....
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I found out today, that he wanted me to mail him his book back. Funny thing about that, is the address he texted me. Hmmmm...I knew it wasn't correct! I looked it up on line. You know what? I found out that the place he wanted it sent to, was a vacant property! Nothing, I mean NOTHING was on it, but grass! Why play MORE games? Haven't you played enough? OH, and I forgot to mention this. Before this even came about, HE supposedly sent me a text....it wasn't him at all..it was HER! Now you're allowing HER to text me, as you?! WTF!!!!!!! I mean, she NOW has my cell phone number, without MY consent! I'm NOT happy about this at all! WHY is a man, of THIS age, playing games of a 8 year old? I mean, does he believe this is funny or something??? Then, to have HER text me back, ACTING as him??? WTF's up with that nonsense??? Please, IF somebody can tell me, so I can understand this behavior! I mean, IF I tell somebody something, I don't need to "dance around the bush" with them......... It just makes me more depressed, that an older man can't even say/tell me the truth.... I have NO idea why this guy's playing emotional rollercoaster rides games???
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Old 10-01-11, 12:12 AM   #27
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As I just got done venting, about my daughter, it makes me truly wonder. I wonder what I've done to make her so mean to me? I'm getting to the point, where I keep going over how I raised her, what has caused her to treat me the way(s) she does, and it makes me feel horrible. I always tried to be here for her; her dad wasn't always. I've always tried to instill good values, respect, and letting her know; I'll be here for her. I'm just beside myself right now. I have too many questions with NO real answers. I mean when we're out in public, and people look at her, then look at me, I can ONLY imagine what they're thinking. It truly hurts. I can't continue to keep taking her wrath. I just don't have the heart to kick her out. I'm stuck, truly! It's a hard and cruel word out their; she's not even scratched the surface of real life. I get so worried, IF I kick her out, that she wouldn't make it or that she wouldn't be here for too long. Somebody would just hurt her, because.... It's a hard struggle, each and every day! I've told her, even though your step-mother doesn't like you, you need to move over by your father. It hurts; breaks my heart. I just can NO longer deal with this behavior of hers! I feel....I feel, like I've failed her and myself. I'm crying, because I can't handle this any more. I have to constantly put up with her abuse. Then, when I've had enough of her mouth and the cruel/mean/thoughtless things she says to me, I just can no longer control myself. I have NO relief from her abuse. Her dad has NO idea how she treats me. There's NO point in telling him either. All he'd say would be something to the effect, she's now an adult. That's NOT a solution it's a statement! He NEVER truly has cared about the way he's treated me, when she was younger, in front of her. She's picked that up from him and keeps going with it! It's almost, like he's the one here! I know I have options, but they're not going to be good/right ones for her. I can't just "leave her in the cold" to learn her lesson(s) in life. I'm so stuck, hurt, torn, mad, upset, angry.....wow, it's a rollercoaster ride right now. I truly love my daughter, but her lack of consideration, respect, and her mean streaks are just getting to much for me to keep dealing with! I have health issues; Fibromyalgia being just a (big) slice of it. This isn't good for it! It's not good for my blood pressure either! I keep feeling, that some way, some how, I've failed her. Not only as her mother, but as being her friend.............
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Today, is really hard for me to deal with. My daughter, has now spent (litterally) the last of her monies, buying lunch for us both. You know, I always (still believe) it's MY job to provide, support, and take care of her. It's really crushing to me right now. I feel pathtic. I feel that my "fight," to hang on to what little I have; is being lost. It's truly sad, when your child, is the one providing you lunch; and is now broke. She does a kind thing like that, but then turns and hurts me with, "I'm now broke...." I just can't seem to get things to turn around for me. I keep praying and hoping that something, fast, will "turn" in my favor; alas it's not. I'm trying so hard, to hang on to everything! I even, but my Beanie Baby collection up for sale. Just trying and get some monies to help/hold things off for a little bit. Needless to say, nobody wants to even see them. (I've ran it on 2 different sites) I'm selling things, I don't want, just to try and pay bills, keep food in the frig., and fuel to get her to work. I'm losing. All the people that I've helped, or they've taken advantage of my situtation, and my sympathy/empathy for their situtation(s) have all slammed the doors on me. IF I lose this house, I'm screwed! I'll have NOTHING left! I'll have no home, no vehicle, no shelter, no nothing! I'm so tired of trying to fight the feeling I'm jinxed! I've never had it easy. It's always been a struggle. My entire life has been! I don't know what more, what better options, or how to help me; help myself? I'm so losing this fight to hang on, to what little I have left in my life! I've tried all the avenues I've found. Yet nothing's working/panning out?! I'm so losing this fight; litterally......
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The fustration(s) keep mounting against me. Letters I recieve, calls, and everything else. I had somebody come to the door today, ring the bell, and I wouldn't answer. It's scary to live like I'm doing. It was just a guy, going around, trying to sell something. Geeze....I need to relax. I'm trying to work things all out, but people don't want to hear it; they want money/results! On top of it all...my daughter and her behavior's on the last nerve. I keep trying, so very hard and nothing will just "give" in my life. I can't believe how people can be so "shallow," when they see another human suffering. I've never been able to just watch somebody suffer and think that some how, it's all their fault. I try to help, be a good person, be honest, and trustworthy. Yet, again, the doors keep slammin. I'm SO exhusted and tired from banging my head (not litterally) into a brick wall. I'm stressed, tired, and even though it's a beautiful day, I just can't figure out what to do? I need help and I have nobody, as previously mentioned, that I can even turn to, talk, or confide in. I trust nobody any more! It's ashame, that people will laugh, while they watch others' suffer. I have a few neighbors like that now. Some, just can't wait for me to lose it, and others, they just say that it's a "sign of the times" we're going through. While I understand, why they're saying what they are, it's NOT a solution to MY problems. Nobody's looked or offered me money for the beanie babies I have. That alone, would at least get a few bills paid, and get me current on 2 bills. I'm just not having any luck here. I've had them posted for 1 week now. Not even an inquiry about them. My daughter will be upset with me, but looking considering, selling the puppy she bought me. I have things, so far, under control with the fleas.(knock on wood) I may have to sell him. That would get me groceries in the house. I know this sounds horrible, but these are some options that I have avaible to me. I truly don't want to part with the beanies or the puppy; but thinking I may need to, just to keep myself and my daughter afloat. I truly wish, I would get a mircle, help, or something that WILL get me through this. I'm exhusted and worn out......
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Today was just so beautiful out, it's too bad my life isn't what I see; looking outside. My daughter's been in a really weird mood today. She's actually being nice, it scares me; seriously! She's only like this, when something's going on, that I'm NOT aware of. I get to find out later, when it all hits the fan, and try to "formulate a plan" to get her out of her messes. I've told her, my "leash" is really short right now, best NOT to get me upset or cost me monies I don't have. The one issue I have now, becoming a serious concern, is this new guy that she's seeing. He's got some serious "shady areas" that I can see, but she's not. I told her, don't even think of getting too attached to this guy, there's something about him, can't put my finger on yet, but it's not a good thing. She just looks at me, like I'm "crazy" or something. My guts telling me, there's something with him, that's "hidden" right now, but IT WILL come out; sooner than later. I can't watch her go thru another friendship/relationship and watch her crash! She's NOT nice and she's really depressing when it happens! She talks foolish and right now, I can't deal with any more stress than I absolutely have too! My Lab's now been acting weird, for the last 2-3 days as well. That alone, is causing me stress and deep concerns. I pray, truly, he's not sick! I can't go through another "incident" like I just did with Roo. It just keeps coming at me, like a bad nightmare I'm unable to awake from! It's one thing after another, after another, and so on and so forth! I NEED a break; a BIG one! I'm acting like, pray that's cornered and has NO place to turn or NO where to hide! I've warned my daughter already that I can just snap! It's nothing personal, just too much to deal with and my options are either limited or none! I keep hoping, as well, this guy's NOT playing games with my daughter! That would really cause me to "lose my composure;" trying HARD to maintain it! I really wish, I would get a mircle, I need it; like months ago.......
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