I have a daughter who is nearly 19 and is 'in the wind' Absolutely no direction whatsoever and no skills. I have tried a number of ways to help (some very unhelpful too!) but as yet, it has not yielded results. But under the anger, frustration and sense of powerlessness to get my daughters life moving is love. I love her and I know that I am an anchor in her life. Despite what she says and does at times, she is a loving, caring compassionate young woman. so she hangs with the wrong crowd - it doesn't change the attributes that she has. I trust that necessity is more often the mother of invention - which means when something is important enough to you, you will get up and go and do it - perhaps not without failure or challenge but you will. A tip you should give your mother and one you probably will not is to password protect the computer. While I work, my daughter has no internet access at home. This means if she really wants to chat, she better at least get dressed and go to the library!
Being angry with you is a way to keep yourself down. It is much easier to stay down using anger as a battering ram than it is to actually get up and do something to help yourself. Its hard its difficult but even mothers have been there. Do one thing small today - don't consider the implications of it. Wash a sinkful of dishes, and if you can't manage that, stack them and wipe down the benches. It will help your mum but even more important you would have helped yourself to feel good about something.
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Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position.