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Old 01-18-11, 03:29 PM   #1
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A therapist told me this once because she said that people who suffer from PTSD and severe depression and related moon disorders all tend to have in common the desire--even hope--that some person will come along and take them into their arms and save them. make everything go away--their unhappiness, their financial problems, even their disorder.

The thing is, as many of us with chronic or multiple depressive episodes eventually come to discover is that nobody's coming to save you. Even if you have a good therapist, loving family, religious affiliation, caring friends, and a depression forum with empathetic people--NONE of them can swoop you up and save you.

I have more or less been in bed for over a week. Have dropped 10 pounds, and am terrified I won't find a job and will lose my apartment. I see myself reaching out to people for answers, motivation, a magic bullet, or -- maybe a million dollars (!?) something that I'm convinced would at least keep me safe from the streets and harming myself.

But nobody's coming. AS it's been said, we enter and leave this world alone. We are each responsible for ourselves, ultimately.

I have people who care about me, but one by one they have stopped really contacting me because they have run out of things to say. I have given up decent relationships and regret them, as I now have no husband or children--no family of my own.

I'm having trouble dating because I'm depressed.

And nobody's coming to save me from this.
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Old 01-18-11, 03:41 PM   #2
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A therapist told me this once because she said that people who suffer from PTSD and severe depression and related moon disorders all tend to have in common the desire--even hope--that some person will come along and take them into their arms and save them. make everything go away--their unhappiness, their financial problems, even their disorder.

The thing is, as many of us with chronic or multiple depressive episodes eventually come to discover is that nobody's coming to save you. Even if you have a good therapist, loving family, religious affiliation, caring friends, and a depression forum with empathetic people--NONE of them can swoop you up and save you.

I have more or less been in bed for over a week. Have dropped 10 pounds, and am terrified I won't find a job and will lose my apartment. I see myself reaching out to people for answers, motivation, a magic bullet, or -- maybe a million dollars (!?) something that I'm convinced would at least keep me safe from the streets and harming myself.

But nobody's coming. AS it's been said, we enter and leave this world alone. We are each responsible for ourselves, ultimately.

I have people who care about me, but one by one they have stopped really contacting me because they have run out of things to say. I have given up decent relationships and regret them, as I now have no husband or children--no family of my own.

I'm having trouble dating because I'm depressed.

And nobody's coming to save me from this.
I am going thru the same thing. I haven't had a perm job in close to 2 years and pretty much unemployable. Even though I have had temp jobs they have all 'ended' suddenly. I have some money from sale of real estate and savings but having no job, no prospects for one and hearing about how the economy & job market are picking up rapidly make me more depressed.

I would love to move somewhere else even out of the country and 'start over' but it seems like ones employment history or lack of it follows them forever
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Old 01-18-11, 03:53 PM   #3
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I feel the same way. Everything you said resonated with me. It is very scary once you realise that things have gone too far too fix them by yourself and that there's nobody who can help. I'm sorry you're in this situation.
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this could be the truest thread ive ever read
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Old 01-18-11, 04:18 PM   #5
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It is true that no one will come to save us from our pain but we can save ourselves. Be possitive, its not all hopeless, everyone can be happy. I know i am new and only just joined but less than a week ago i was on the edge feeling hopeless and ready. But i have had to hold on to hope and with that i have had to start the process of recovery by seeking help and by helping myself and that gives me hope.
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Old 01-18-11, 10:09 PM   #6
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Things are almost never too late. The friends that have stopped contacting you might think you do not want to talk to them. Try giving them a call. They will probably be happy to hear from you. If some of them aren't happy to hear from you, then keep going until you find people who are happy to hear from you. The important thing is not to give up. You have to keep pushing, you have to be relentless.
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