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Old 04-28-20, 11:18 AM   #1
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My Girlfriend just broke up with me. She said that she needs to date someone healthier. I grew up with her as my best friend but I was always in love with her. She finally loved me back after a lot of struggles that forced us apart (such as living in different states) So now, not only am I losing my girlfriend, but my best friend. I know we could go back to the way it was when we were friends because honestly with this Corona stuff right now it wouldn't be that different. But do I want it to go back to the way it was. Maybe I want to separate myself from everyone and...
Maybe I should try again.
The only thing holding me back is the promise I made to my mother in prison.
I'm starting to say FUCK THAT.
But, you know, I don't really understand everything at this point. Though, breaking that promise is starting to seem possible.
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Old 04-29-20, 01:39 PM   #2
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My Girlfriend just broke up with me. She said that she needs to date someone healthier. I grew up with her as my best friend but I was always in love with her. She finally loved me back after a lot of struggles that forced us apart (such as living in different states) So now, not only am I losing my girlfriend, but my best friend. I know we could go back to the way it was when we were friends because honestly with this Corona stuff right now it wouldn't be that different. But do I want it to go back to the way it was. Maybe I want to separate myself from everyone and...
Maybe I should try again.
The only thing holding me back is the promise I made to my mother in prison.
I'm starting to say FUCK THAT.
But, you know, I don't really understand everything at this point. Though, breaking that promise is starting to seem possible.


I am sorry

I have personally never been through a breakup but can imagine how difficult it is to deal with
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Old 04-29-20, 10:25 PM   #3
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Thank you so much for taking the time to comment🌹
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Old 04-29-20, 10:38 PM   #4
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Sorry that that sounded as if I was getting my first comment on a youtube video.
I'm just trying to say thank you for caring. Not a lot of people would.
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My Girlfriend just broke up with me. She said that she needs to date someone healthier. I grew up with her as my best friend but I was always in love with her. She finally loved me back after a lot of struggles that forced us apart (such as living in different states) So now, not only am I losing my girlfriend, but my best friend. I know we could go back to the way it was when we were friends because honestly with this Corona stuff right now it wouldn't be that different. But do I want it to go back to the way it was. Maybe I want to separate myself from everyone and...
Maybe I should try again.
The only thing holding me back is the promise I made to my mother in prison.
I'm starting to say FUCK THAT.
But, you know, I don't really understand everything at this point. Though, breaking that promise is starting to seem possible.


AllButGone~I'm deeply sorry to hear that she broke up with you. I know this may not be of much comfort, as of this movement, but thing's happen for a reason. I know, truly how cliché this sounds, but it's the truth. At certain point's within our lives, we need growth. Now that can be inner, outside, or a combination of both. We need to keep moving forward within our lives & growth is part of that. We grow apart from friend's & people we used to know or hang out with. We grow within ourselves, our lives, or within our belief's. None the less, growth & changes are good for us. No, they're not always the easiest, I will be first to admit it. Also, at times, we don't think/feel/believe that we need to, because we feel we've done "enough changing/growing" at whatever point in time that may be.
That all be said, we also take thing's away from each & every relationship we have, encounter & sometimes endure if you will. Anything IS possible IF we believe in ourselves! We need to see that we need to always see that maybe there's another path in life that can/could be "more fulfilling" than what we are currently "traveling" on. Maybe right now, you may not see that it's necessary, but in time all thing's are revealed. Have faith within yourself & have faith with what you (personally) believe. Finally. Promises can be made to be broken, but do you really want to break it? I think when you make a promise to someone, you do your darnest to keep it. Yes, I'll admit (sadly) that I've broken a few within my life. To this day, they still bother me. I've tried to "make amends" for those broken promises, by doing something for someone else that's in need or whatever the circumstance's that are presented to me. I always try to pay something forward, that was given to me out of pure & utter kindness.
Know that you have support & people that are here for you. Be strong within yourself & thing's (will eventually) be "a bit calmer sailing" for you. In the meanwhile, we're all here for you.
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Yeah, I'm trying really hard to keep it. Although, I don't agree with anyone taking that essential piece of the constitution out of effect. In my opinion, eveyone has the right to pursue unhappiness and if that is my goal, I should be allowed to commit suicide. I know everyone's intentions are pure and out of love. I just don't know how I can be expected to keep a promise that holds so much weight.
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AllButGone~I understand your point of view, however I hope you'll listen to what I have to say. We all go through difficult time's. Nothing is ever easy for anyone of us. That being said, deciding that we just aren't able to keep moving forward means to me simply this. Had I done that, many year's ago, with my life being a very difficult one, from start to where I currently am, I would have missed a lot of beautiful 'gift's' that the Good Lord's blessed me with. One of them being my 5 grandbabies. Yes, life IS trying, difficult & you want to stop the pain/suffering/heartaches. When I look at those 5 little one's it's all been worth it to still keep moving forward. I'm glad & grateful I was here to see them. I have gotten to watch them grow & watch their personality's grow as well. While I never had a family to enjoy or be loved/cared by or for, I do have the abilities to give/show them that. It's all in how you perceive thing's in my humble opinion. Yes, time's aren't always easy & thing's don't always 'pan out' the way(s) we want them to. However, to me there's a plan or design if you will. You just got to believe in yourself & know that you can make a difference! You can help other's not endure or have to go through what you did/have. You have suggestion's, thought's, idea's & so much more to share with someone or other's. You matter, as much as anyone else does. You deserve to be happy & enjoy life, even IF you think/feel/believe you're "unworthy" of it. Believe me, I've felt that all of my life. Yet, I still keep moving/pushing forward. I hope you do as well, knowing that you have support & people that (truly) do care about you.
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5 grandchildren, woah! Maybe I should set you up with my grandmother. Are you single ??? 😂 just kidding. Truly, thanks for the advice. I'll take it into account.
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5 grandchildren, woah! Maybe I should set you up with my grandmother. Are you single ??? 😂 just kidding. Truly, thanks for the advice. I'll take it into account.

Yes, 5 beautiful grandbabies. I don't know why'd you set me up with your grandmother? I appreciate the kindness that goes behind that thinking. JIC you didn't know, I am a female. All anyone can do, is just take what's given into account & apply it into their own lives. It's why this place is so wonderful & the people within it.
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Be strong and try again with another girl or try and work as much as possible on this friendship.
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