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Old 01-26-16, 09:31 PM   #1
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I don't know what's wrong with me. My mom cried earlier tonight... she was upset because I had a breakdown and said I don't want to live anymore. I hugged her and tried to make her feel better. I told I was sorry for what she has to go through because of me, told her that she deserved better than the life she was cursed with. And yet, I didn't feel anything. It's like my brain knew that I was supposed to feel bad, but there was no physical reaction. I feel so guilty about it. What the fuck is wrong with me? Why am I so damn empty? My mom is probably the only person who actually loves me. She's the only one in my family who ever showed me empathy or cared for my well-being. I don't think I could go on if I lost her. She's the most important person in my life. I just don't understand why I didn't feel anything.
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Old 01-27-16, 02:58 AM   #2
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You might be numb or in shock.
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You might be numb or in shock.
I've sort of been like this for a long time now... it just becomes more apparent sometimes. I hate it.
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today a woman at my group therapy session was crying in the lounge room. I was the only other person there. I felt bad for her but couldn't even bring myself to ask her if she was okay. Too scared of appearing vulnerable. She probably thinks I'm a heartless jerk.
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I am exactly the same when it comes to empathy. While I can understand the hardships and issues people face I cannot bring myself to feel anything.
It makes me feel guilty but sometimes when a loved one is hurt you want to be strong for them.
It may be the shock or your own defences. But certainly it isn't wrong to not feel a certain way. If deep down you know you love and care thats all you need.
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One thing I've read commonly associated with the truly unfortunate is if they're not corrupted by bitterness, resentment, etc they usually have a higher empathetic response than people who live more average to good lives. However, I wonder if that really means anything in a society that effectively tries to one up one another, from a very simple viewpoint.

Perhaps it might not be a bad thing for you.
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Old 02-13-16, 06:37 PM   #7
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I totally get where you're coming from here. You know, there are times in which I feel like my empathy skills are lacking, even though others have told me that it's quite the opposite. But I suppose in some manner of speaking, people may have trouble feeling empathy for others because when they were in the same situation, nobody around them seemed to care. When I went through constant bullying in elementary and high school, I had absolutely no allies around me. So when something bad happened to them, I found it difficult to care sometimes. Chalk it up to human nature though.
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Emotional numbness can be a symptom of depression. I think my empathy is actually much higher than average, though. But it's hard to approach someone who is crying, because maybe they will lash out. Our society teaches us to regard crying as a sign someone is unstable and weird. Which is so f*ed up.
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